03/20/2018
Rejection hurts — and in singleness there is plenty of it to go around. Whether it’s the explicit rejection some men face when they ask a woman on a date, or the implicit rejection of wondering why no man is asking you on a date, those who are single face the fear that they are not wanted.
The world may tell you the solution to this pain is to speak worth over yourself so loudly that you drown out the whisper of rejection. However this only masks the pain. By Gods grand design, we were created to have worth spoken into us by someone outside of ourselves. What a great gift that needy design is for continually driving us towards God. And what a terrifying distortion it is when we let it drive us to mere mortals. There is no person on earth that should have the power to speak into us value or worth in such a way that it secures our identity.
The church may tell you the solution to this pain is a simplistic notion of Jesus; that if you embrace the truth that He wants you, you will be able to overcome the pain of rejection in singleness. Sounds good to me, but there is an agonizing question I find bubbling up in my soul when I consider this: If Jesus is supposed to satisfy all my hunger to be loved and wanted, why doesn’t He?
We will never find Jesus’s approval truly satisfying until we stop seeking our approval from others.
In the book of John, Jesus asks this question:
"How can you believe, when you receive glory from one another and do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?" -John 5:44
When we treat people as if they have the power to determine our value, we attribute to them a power that belongs to God alone.