06/18/2026
Day 4: Choosing Others First
Devotional
Selfishness whispers that our needs, wants, and preferences should come first. It convinces us we deserve to win arguments, control decisions, and have things our way. But God calls us to a radically different approach: putting others before ourselves, especially in marriage. This doesn't mean becoming a doormat or losing your identity. It means choosing to consider your spouse's needs as important as your own. It means asking "How can I serve?" instead of "What's in it for me?" It means being willing to compromise, sacrifice, and sometimes give up what you want for the good of your relationship. When both partners embrace this mindset, something beautiful happens. Instead of two people fighting for their own interests, you have two people working together to bless each other. This creates a cycle of generosity and love that strengthens the marriage and honors God. The key is remembering this choice isn't based on whether your spouse deserves it or has earned it. It's based on God's call to love sacrificially, just as Christ loved us.
Bible Verse
"Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." - Philippians 2:3-4 (ESV)
Reflection Question
In what specific area of your marriage do you need to stop insisting on your own way and start considering your spouse's needs first?
Quote
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit. Do what? Do nothing. Don't post on Facebook out of selfishness. Don't try to win the argument out of selfishness.
Prayer
Lord, transform my selfish heart and help me genuinely care about my spouse's needs and interests. Give me the strength to choose love over selfishness every day. In Jesus’ name, amen.