06/21/2026
WE MUST FORGIVE
by
Rev. Dawn Flynn
June 21, 2026 (New Life MCC)
Scripture: Epistle – Ephesians 4: 25-32; Psalm 32; Gospel –Matthew 18:21-35 (sermon text)
G. Ray Jordan tells the story of a man lying on his deathbed, harassed by fear because he had harbored hatred against another. He sent for the individual with whom he had a disagreement years before; he then made overtures of peace. The two of them shook hands in friendship. But as the visitor left the room, the sick man roused himself and said, "Remember, if I get over this, the old quarrel stands".
Does this story sound familiar? If we're honest with ourselves, we all have given 'conditional forgiveness' to people we have met in our lives.
It's hard to forgive someone when they hurt you. Our human nature wants to hold on and get back at them. The deeper the hurt the harder it is to forgive. Most of the time those deeper hurts involve things done to our partners, parents, children or grandchildren. We would die for any of them. But you know, Jesus had something very special to say about forgiveness in the Scripture in the Gospel of Matthew selected today.
That story is one of Jesus' parables. You know, a parable is an earthly story with a heavenly meaning. The Hebrew word for 'parable' is 'mashal' and means 'be like'. The Greek word for 'parable' is 'parabol' which means placing one thing alongside another for comparison. A parable therefore is a kind of a comparison - comparing an earthly story and a heavenly meaning.
According to John Brokoff, parables constitute 1/3 of all Jesus teachings of which He told 50-70 parables. The number varies according to which scholar is counting. Brokoff also states that parables are characterized by five things:
-they are basic.
-they are intended for the common people.
-they make us think.
-they call for a decision to be made on our part as the listener.
-they explain truths about God.
This parable we are looking at today is sometimes called the parable of the wicked servant and sometimes it is referred to also as a teaching on the law of forgiveness. Let’s look at it more closely and see exactly what it says about forgiveness.
It starts in verse 21 with Peter coming up to the Lord and asking him how often he should forgive his brother when he sins against him. It is obvious here that Peter has taken to heart what Jesus said to the disciples in the previous verses 15-20 where He told them in verse 15 that if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. And if he doesn't, then in verses 16-17, you are to take one or two brothers with you as witnesses. If he still doesn't listen to you, treat him as a gentile or tax collector. But the point is, you are to make amends and forgive each other.
So, Peter here is taking Jesus statements one step further. He asks in verse 21 how many times am I supposed to forgive someone who sins against me? Am I to forgive them seven times? Peter is probably thinking that surely there must be a limit to how many times we are to forgive someone who sins against us. But Jesus says back to him in verse 22, "I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven." Some manuscripts say seventy-seven times. The point is still the same. Seven is a perfect number. It reflects completeness. Jesus is not saying 77 times or 490 times. He is clearly saying there is no limit. We are to forgive continually. And to emphasize that Jesus tells the Parable of the Wicked Servant.
In the story in the Gospel, the Kingdom of God is compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. The king is God and His servants are us. One of His servants owed him 10,000 talents.
Let's stop here for a moment and talk a little about how much 10,000 talents is. During New Testament times, money from three sources circulated in Palestine:
1. The official money which was Roman.
2. The provincial money which was Greek.
3. The local money which was Jewish.
Is it no wonder money changers flourished!
The commonest silver coins of Palestine were the Greek tetra drachmas and the Roman denarius. They both were an ordinary man's wage for a day.
100 Roman denarii = 1 Greek mina.
60 Greek minas = 1 talent
By multiplying 100 x 60 you get 6,000 denarii equals 1 talent.
Taking 6,000 working days to earn one talent, 10,000 talents would take 60,000 working days.
If a worker worked 6 days a week (Sabbath off), it would take 10,000 weeks, or 192 years, to earn 10,000 talents. Oh, by the way, some scholars equate the value of that debt to about $145-$290 million with the value of a talent equal to $29,000 (heavy gold) to $14,500 (light gold).
It is obviously an impossibility to achieve. Jesus was saying clearly here that this is a debt that was impossible to pay back. The servant pleads for mercy and the King forgives him his debt just as Jesus forgives us our debt which we could never repay by His death on the cross.
But the servant then goes out and meets one his servants who owes him 100 denarii. Remember a denarius was a common man's wage for a day. The debt would equate to about 4 months of work. And what does he do. When the servant asks for mercy, in verse 20, it says he "refused and went and put him in prison till he should pay the debt."
When his fellow servants heard about what he did they went and told the King. The King then called his servant and said, starting in verse 32, "you wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you besought me; and should you not have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?" and in anger, his Lord delivered him to the jailers, till he should pay all his debt". And when will he be able to pay all his debt? We just figured it out earlier - 192 years. That is never.
In verse 35 is the moral of the story: "So also God will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart".
You hear that. If we do not show that same forgiveness God shows to us through Jesus Christ, God will deal with us on the Day of Judgment, not with mercy, but according to the Judgment that the King gave the evil servant.
It all relates back to the Lord's Prayer where we say, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us”. And to the fifth Beatitude which says, “Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy”. In other words, if we forgive those who sin against us and are merciful to them, God will forgive us and be merciful to us.
During these times of uncertainty, we must have a forgiving heart as people’s circumstances are uncertain. We must give to others from our hearts, not expecting to be repaid and not hold a grudge if someone doesn’t thank us. We must do everything, with joy, in the love of Jesus.
It also says that the forgiveness must come from the heart. That means it must be genuine. It must be such that no grudges are held. It must be forgiven and forgotten as God forgets our sins when we repent. It must not be like the story I told at the beginning of this sermon where the man says the quarrel still stands if he gets well. Only complete forgiveness will satisfy God. Forgiveness from the heart can only come from God.
We need to ask ourselves: Does our life exemplify that kind of forgiveness? If not, Jesus is waiting for us to talk to Him. Jesus wants us to have a forgiving heart. Go to Him and He will give it to you. The Scripture says He always gives to His children what is best for them. He never turns away from your request if comes from your heart.
In Jesus Name. Amen.
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