05/22/2026
When is jealousy a good thing?
There are two kinds of jealousy. One leads to envy and discontent. Another speaks of loyalty and protection. If I’m jealous of another’s success, I’m headed for misery. If I’m jealous because another man is flirting with my wife, It’s due to my loyalty and love for her.
Unwarranted jealousy needs to be dealt with by admitting our feelings and accepting the things we cannot control. It’s easy to become jealous of a rival’s success. To overcome those feelings we need to discover why we are threatened by that person and learn to give praise and thanks for their achievements.
Jealousy for those we love comes from a place of deep devotion within. If we aren’t jealous when a rival seeks to steal affection from those we love, it’s probably because we don’t truly love them. We should have a deep sense of devotion and loyalty to our spouses, children, family, and friends and anytime their loyalty towards us wanes, we are justified in our jealousy.
The Jesus POV of jealousy is that he provides us with everything we need, even though he needs nothing from us. Therefore, he is justified in his jealousy towards us when we seek other sources for joy and lend our adoration to sources that do not have our best interest at heart. Jesus died for us, paying a debt he didn’t owe and we couldn’t afford. When we turn our back on him, his jealousy is warranted.
We must not allow jealousy to consume us or lead us into sin. We must remain righteous in our devotion and loyalty to others, and expect it in return just as God does from us. However, when someone chooses not to return our love or devotion, we need to trust God to either change them or change us. Sometimes it is others who need to change and respond to our loyalty. Sometimes it is us who need to move on and allow God to lead us to those who will truly reciprocate our devotion.
Signed OOHF
This blog is in conjunction with Donnie Foster (Author of The Jesus POV and pastor of Keystone Bible Church FW) and his messages entitled “The Attributes of God”. To enjoy these messages they can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61577047131189&sk=reels_tab.