05/15/2026
Pastor Brian's Pieces
May 14, 2026
Good Morning Sisters and Brothers in Christ,
Last night Man Cave got together. I thought it was fun, and the food was great. The next gathering will be on July 14th at 5:30.
Our next session meeting is on Monday at 6:30.
Pastor in Action
This week has been very busy.
Last week was ordination exam reading week. I read several. I am pleased to say I was able to pass all the ones I read.
In the past week I have had 4 meeting with people in various locations and for widely different reasons. While much of this is confidential, let me ask this. Please throw up some general prayers. There are people who need them.
I got to sit in with the Man Cave group. It was one of my more relaxing moments. Of course, there was a quiz.
Message
There is a word we throw around a lot without really thinking about what it means. The word is “forgiveness.”
I have had the opportunity to throw this word out many times, and asking what it means. I usually get silence. We use the word, but we don’t really think about what it means, and entails.
Essentially, forgiveness means to restore a relationship to what it was before the sinful act occurred. Let that sink in for a moment.
First off, let’s talk legally. Courts, specifically civil, though at least in theory, it applies to criminal, are there to restore balance, to restore relationships to what they were before whatever happened. They are not, in theory, there to punish or to make someone rich. Again, in theory.
When we say we forgive someone, what we should be saying is that we are offering to have our relationship be what it was before the something happened. Now, don’t get me wrong. We don’t forget, sadly.
Forgiveness is not easy. There are several components. First, forgiveness must be offered by the offended party. Secondly, the offender must acknowledge the sin. Thirdly, the offender needs to repent, or change direction. That is, they must strive not to do it again. And finally, the offender must accept the forgiveness. When all of this occurs, in theory, the relationship is restored.
In reality, we do not forgive just one time for an action. It is an on going process that requires a lot of work. It would be easier if we could forget. We have to both offer, and accept forgiveness every hour, every day, and so on.
I often hear people say they forgive something or someone, and yet they still harbor resentment or refuse to be in relationship with that person. That is not forgiveness.
Let’s look at this from a Divine perspective. When God offers forgiveness, which is always, God is offering to draw us closer by restoring our relationship. God doesn’t hold a grudge. But, we still have to acknowledge our wrong doing, change direction, and accept that mercy. Again, this is an ongoing process.
Now, put yourself into that position. When someone wrongs you, are you prepared to still be friends with them. Are you still ready to interact, to go to lunch, to share a cup of coffee, to dialogue and disagree with that person the way you did yesterday, and the day before.
Forgiveness is hard, to both offer and to accept.
That being said, I want us all to seriously consider God’s mercy. It is not something to be taken for granted. It is something to be shared. True community cannot exist without it. After all, we all stumble. We all make mistakes. Sometimes, we know it, and other times, we don’t. Having the ability to forgive, to sincerely embrace that person who has wronged you, to engage with that person, is a gift. It makes our relationships, and thus our communities stronger.
Friends, know this, God has, and does forgive you. It’s a blessing we do not always see, recognize, or appreciate. The good news, we don’t have to worry about it either. However, we are called to forgive as we have been forgiven.
Friends, I thank God you are in my life. Each of you blesses me in different ways. I hope your days are blessed, bright, and numerous.
Blessings and Peace
Brian Long