09/02/2026
3 THINGS THAT HELP ANYONE OPEN UP TO YOU
3 things decide whether someone keeps talking: Genuine curiosity, active listening, and zero judgment.
Start with curiosity that's actually genuine. We can be fake curious and add small talk with nothing underneath.
Jesus was masterful here. He noticed people, and He asked amazing questions. His question-to-answer ratio in Scripture is about four to one.
Active listening comes next. Ask, then have a follow-up ready. Don't move on too quickly.
When you listen and engage with people, it has to be more than asking a question and moving on, but listening and finding out what makes this person unique.
Zero judgment might matter most. When people share their story, they're taking a risk.
There's no place for correction in that moment. So we've got a choice: come down on them, or stay in the seat of curiosity.