09/11/2026
Word of the Week: Before and After
Today marks 25 years since September 11, 2001.
For some of you, that sentence immediately brings back a place, a person, a television screen, or a feeling. You remember where you were. You remember who you called. You remember watching the towers fall and wondering what would happen next. For others, September 11 is only history. You weren't alive yet. You learned about it in school. You saw the pictures and heard the stories, but you don't remember the day itself. And yet, whether you remember September 11 or not, I think most of us understand something about what happened that day.
There are moments in our lives that divide everything into before and after. For our nation, 9/11 was one of those moments. It shaped a generation. It influenced thousands of decisions to serve. Many of the leaders we work alongside today made the decision to raise their hand because of what they saw happen to our country.
But national crucibles aren't the only ones that shape us. We all have them. A death. A divorce. A diagnosis. A failure. A deployment. A loss. An accident. A relationship that ended. A moment when the world we thought we understood suddenly changed. Some of those moments leave scars. But scars aren't always evidence that we were destroyed. Sometimes they're evidence that something survived.
September is Su***de Prevention Month, and part of that conversation is recognizing that trauma can change us without having to define us. Research on post-traumatic growth reminds us that people can experience profound positive change after adversity. Not because the trauma was good. Not because the pain was necessary. But because human beings can sometimes find new strength, deeper relationships, greater appreciation for life, and a clearer sense of what matters because of what they've survived.
That's where I think we have three things to do:
-Remember. Don't forget what happened. Don't forget the people who were lost. Don't forget the lessons.
-Reflect. Ask what the difficult moments in your own life have changed in you. What did they reveal? What did they strengthen? What matters more to you now because of what you've experienced?
-Redirect. Don't allow the worst thing that happened to you to become the final word about your life.
You can't always choose what happens to you.
But you can, over time, choose what you do with what happened. So as we remember September 11, and as we think about the crucible moments in our own lives, here's the question I want to leave with you:
What beauty, strength, or purpose has grown in you because of something you once thought would only break you?
Remember. Reflect. Redirect. And if you find you need a listening ear, I’m here. —Chappie