08/30/2026
Expectations
Dear God, Set us free from our unreasonable expectations. Align our thoughts and desires with Your perfect will knowing that Your plans are greater than our own. Amen
Proverbs 10:28 NRSVUE The hope of the righteous ends in gladness, but the expectation of the wicked comes to nothing.
What exactly are expectations? Simply put, expectations are beliefs that come from a person’s thought process when examining evidence. Expectations can be high or low, reasonable or unreasonable, good or bad. Many times, we form expectations automatically, without conscious effort. Expectations can shape our lives and influence our relationship with God and others, but they can be trying at times.
Expectations can guide our hopes and shape our plans, but they can also lead to disappointment if not managed well. Our expectations are not always correct because of flaws in our logic and the bias of our hopes and desires. Sometimes, we “get our hopes up” based on a false premise or a misreading of the evidence. Learning how to set realistic expectations—both for ourselves and others—can make all the difference in maintaining peace and balance.
Unmet expectations can be discouraging and disheartening. As humans, we often have our own agenda, and when it does not align with reality, we struggle. When expectations are not met, we become dissatisfied, and we often place blame on something or someone who did not live up to our own expectations—even if our expectations were unreasonable.
As Christians, we are called to give our expectations to God. The Bible encourages us to base expectations on God’s Word, not on human assumptions or cultural norms. We gain comfort in placing our expectations in God, as He knows what’s best for us and has great plans for our future. When our expectations are grounded in faith, righteousness, and trust in God’s timing, we feel secure and hopeful.
We can expect God’s faithfulness even in trying times. Our expectations should be shaped by His promises, our trust in His timing, and our readiness to follow Him.
1. How do cultural norms affect our expectations?
2. Why do we have trouble changing our expectations? Or do we?
3. How does our patience (or lack of it) play a role in our expectations?
4. How does our faith affect our expectations?
“Expectations were like fine pottery. The harder you held them, the more likely they were to crack.” ~ Brandon Sanderson
“When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.” ~ Ryan Reynolds
“Expectations are like hidden rocks in your path, All they do is trip you up” ~ Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni