10/14/2025
MATRIARCHY as Thesis + PATRIARCHY as Antithesis = PARTNERSHIP as Synthesis
A. Allen Butcher • School of Intentioneering • Denver, Colorado • October 14, 2025
I advocate the use of the term and concept of "partnership" in place of "matriarchy," and "partnership culture" rather than "matriarchal culture," because people tend to think that the only alternative to patriarchy is matriarchy, when in fact matristic cultures were not and are not hierarchal and domineering as is patriarchal culture. This essential difference in cultural patterns is lost when the choices are defined as matriarchy versus patriarchy. The difference is not which gender is on top, the difference is between the cultural systems of patriarchal autocracy versus partnership equality.
The current round of the ongoing American Culture War is clearly that of patriarchal, MAGA Dark Enlightenment versus partnership, WOKE Democratic Commonwealth. If we want a partnership culture, we cannot have a patriarchal religion like Christian Nationalism, and must co-create and affirm partnership as a religion. I call it, “Partnership Spirituality.”
Trinitarian-Monotheist patriarchal Christianity must be replaced with Binarian-Monotheist partnership religion in order to replace patriarchy with partnership.
I go into this in depth on my paper: "Intentioneering Ecopartnership Culture," January, 2023 • 74 pages
Abstract: Culture can be given, or it can be a matter of choice. Human culture evolves as people decide what they choose to believe and how to live. When gender-equality is desired, patriarchal culture is replaced with partnership culture, which especially requires replacing patriarchal religion with Partnership Spirituality.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/14AEzhLu4OM2wtxA7wL3IC8T9y75g_Y4f/view?usp=sharing
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Riane Eisler advocates “partnerism” as an egalitarian cultural model, and I take up where Riane Eisler leaves off. Eisler does not address the need for a partnership religion any more than does anyone else, yet I think it is essential, and I am looking for people who have time, interest in, and energy for using partnership religion as a cultural-change movement strategy.
MONEY as a Communication Medium verses TIME-BASED ECONOMICS
I emphasize that the transition from early matriarchal/partnership culture to patriarchal culture happened around the same time in human history as the invention and rise from barter to indirect-barter using commodities like grain, cattle, precious stones and minerals, long before monetary systems of minted coins and paper money developed.
As property, possessiveness, and markets developed, soon women, children and slaves became property, along with everything else. We can see this in what various writers state about pre-historical matriarchal cultures that women organized the domestic scene, with property owned by the matriarchs of the clan, while the men built structures and managed trade and businesses to earn money for exchange with other clans, and with the dominant, patriarchal culture, or Outside World. Depending upon the desired technological level or standard-of-living, some amount of trade is always necessary. Defending and taking property soon became the primary distraction of men.
The continual centralization of wealth and power in the dominant culture resulted in both the evolution of warfare and of monetary economics, as Neil Ferguson explains in his book, “The Ascent of Money.”
Today, because of the influence of money on culture, tending toward patriarchy and autocracy, the method for creating partnership culture is to advocate and build small, human-scale communities, respecting Margaret Mead's view that traditional, typically matriarchal clans, were comprised of from one to three dozen people, and respecting Robert Dunbar's Number that the "dialectical tribe," meaning the number of people humans can reasonable relate to in a local society based upon verbal communication rather than money, is limited to about 150 people. We see these two cultural patterns today in the intentional communities movement, since such societies rely upon direct human communication more than the communication medium of money.
Communal society, a form of intentional community, returns us to pre-monetary gifting and sharing culture, relying upon verbal communication rather than using money as a communication medium. This is how, in egalitarian societies today, domestic reproduction labor is valued equally with business production labor.
These two forms of labor, production, or typically “men’s work,” and reproduction, or traditionally “women’s work,” are integrated in the communal societies of the Federation of Egalitarian Communities in the USA, which are small societies on the scale of Mead's and Dunbar's numbers. While the Israeli kibbutz movement had communal communities of over a thousand people, they did not sustain it over more than a couple generations before devolving through privatization. Communal Hutterite Colonies in the North American Plains states and provinces had a similar history, adopting Mead's family clan structure within, or nested, in their tribe-like Dunbar's colony structure when they immigrated from Europe to North America. I detail these three communal-culture models in my paper, "Too Much of a Good Thing" on my Intentioneers.net website, here:
“Too Much of a Good Thing: Communal Childcare and the Cofamily’s Small-Group Adaptation to Large-Group Communalism’s Bias Against Children,” March, 2023 • 34 pages
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1oXYYj6sX9V1meC8WO0GYzyW326VbCTLF/view?usp=share_link
See also: “Cofamily - Raising Children in Small-Group Community,” 2023 • 48 pages
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UW6tNMayRh7Z6xc0DLCKafVoKnQxf2Ne/view?usp=sharing
These small-scale cultures focus upon internal social designs that do not rely primarily upon money. Money is still needed for exchange with the Outside World, yet internally, verbal communication is emphasized as the means of organizing various forms of time-based economies. Time-based economies come in three forms: labor-exchanges, labor-gifting, and labor-exchanging.
First, labor exchanges are usually hour-for-hour trades, with more advanced systems like Time Dollars in which people can save up “service credits” as hours of done-labor banked for exchange for other labor services performed by other people in the future.
Second, labor-gifting is the concepts of “giving back” and of “paying it forward” in which people contribute time or labor to some form of community commons, which is then available to them as they have need. This is basically the familiar 18th century Morelly’s Maxim, written in his 1755 book titled “The Code of Nature,” stated as “from each according to ability; to each according to need.” In the early 19th century, when Karl Marx was developing his concept of the most advanced stage of communism, the best way he had of explaining it was to use Morelly’s Maxim.
Third, labor-sharing is when people agree to contribute a certain amount or minimum amount of time working for the good of the community, rather than just for themselves. Labor-sharing is practiced in two different ways, either as each person contributing an unmonitored “fair-share” of time to the community, or as each person agreeing to work within a labor system recording done-labor toward a weekly “labor quota,” or minimum number of hours required to maintain their membership in the community. Labor systems address the “free-rider” problem of the fair-share system, and reward contributions of “over-quota” work done beyond the minimum by accumulating vacation time. The egalitarian aspect of the vacation-credit labor system is that all work benefiting the community is considered to be worth one credit, regardless of who is doing it or what is done. In this way production and reproduction are valued equally.
Communal distribution of goods and services in egalitarian, time-based economies is then managed by various systems for assuring fairness, including systems such as: drawing straws, rolling dice or other methods of chance; first-come-first-served; rationing (along with organizing to increase supply); according to need (as in health care); and the more complex method called the “double-blind preferences matrix,” in which something like private rooms are matched with people desiring them in ranked order, with the two given names like flowers and animals, and someone not knowing who or what each animal and flower is, arranging the matrix so that each animal gets it highest ranked-choice possible of flower. To describe labor-sharing and distribution systems in communal society the present author updated Morelly’s Maxim by replacing it with Allen’s Axiom in stating, “from all according to intent; to all according to fairness.”
PARALLEL CULTURES
Small-scale or human-scale partnership culture, translates to the next larger social level of the local region in what the present author calls the “Democratic Commonwealth,” in contrast with Dark Enlightenment’s concept of “cameralism,” which is the autocratic city-state cultural model. The next larger, First World cultural scale, generally characterized as capitalist neo-liberalism, now being influenced by fascist Dark-Enlightenment, is then countered or contrasted with the concept of the Fourth World, which is the decentralized, democratic, political-economic culture.
Western Civilization has been giving the Democratic Commonwealth a good try, and may continually improve, yet seems to be having trouble preventing back-sliding into autocracy. The dynamic interplay of democracy and autocracy has always been a conflict in human society, going back even before Ancient Greek and Roman times into our pre-history. A good graphical illustration of this is the Taoist Taijitu or “yin-yang symbol” of ever-flowing opposite forces, each with aspects of the other within them. The whole systems view is then the synthesis of process theory and philosophy.
Recognizing that the opposing concepts of democracy and autocracy will always be part of the human story, I have developed the concept of "Parallel Cultures," saying that humans need opposites, or plurality as in political-economic-religious pluralism, and not forced cultural homogenization.
I have two papers presenting these theories:
POLITICAL-ECONOMIC-RELIGIOUS PLURALISM • November, 2020 • 7 pages
https://drive.google.com/file/d/11RPF2J9J9ZlCvVgOoLL-r2xS1hDw1Bob/view
and
PARALLEL CULTURES: From the Historical Garden of Eden to the 21st Century Ecovillage • 2025 • 62 pages
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1EMs0DmDdPk07ML6nzFzbvGWlyO8fraLz/view
Purity as a cultural form needs to be a free choice, even though it plays into autocracy, so to enable free choice people always need the plurality of the Democratic Commonwealth assuring cultural options. Neither Dark Enlightenment nor Democratic Commonwealth should ever be permitted to totally subsume the other. Always affirming the parallel cultures of autocracy and democracy, and enabling each person’s choice of how to live, is how those of us who prefer the lifestyle, transition out of patriarchy into partnership.
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