06/02/2026
The Burning Bush Devotional June 2
Job Needed Comfort, Not Criticism – Relationships Listen Before They Lecture
Job 2:11–13; Job 16:1–5; Romans 12:15; Proverbs 18:13
One of the greatest gifts we can offer someone who is hurting is our presence. Yet one of the greatest mistakes people often make when faced with another person's suffering is feeling obligated to immediately explain it, fix, analyze, or solve it. Compassion does not always arrive with answers, sometimes it arrives carrying nothing more than a listening ear, a caring heart, and the willingness to simply sit with someone in their pain. Relationship Thinking understands that hurting people are not projects to be fixed; they are people to be loved.
Few stories in Scripture illustrate this truth better than the life of Job. In a truly short period of time, Job lost his children, his wealth, his health, and nearly every sense of stability he had known. The suffering was overwhelming. Yet when Job's three friends first arrived, they actually did something remarkably wise. Scripture tells us they sat with him for seven days and seven nights without speaking a word because they saw how great his suffering was. Sometimes silence can be one of the purest expressions of compassion. Unfortunately, things changed when they began talking. What started as comfort slowly turned into criticism. What started as compassion became accusation. Instead of listening carefully to Job's broken heart, they became convinced they already knew why he was suffering. They assumed God must be punishing him for some hidden sin. Rather than helping carry his burden, they added weight to it. Rather than bringing healing, they brought hurt. Job eventually responded in Job 16:2, "I have heard many things like these; you are miserable comforters, all of you!"
That statement should challenge every believer because many well-meaning Christians accidentally become miserable comforters. They rush to explain before they understand. They lecture before they listen. They offer answers before they hear the whole story. The problem is not usually a lack of concern. The problem is a lack of Relationship Thinking. Relationship Thinking slows down long enough to understand what a person actually needs. Sometimes hurting people do not need a sermon, Sometimes they do not need advice or even correction.
Sometimes they simply need someone willing to sit beside them and remind them they are not alone. That is why Romans 12:15 instructs believers, "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn." Notice Paul does not say explain their mourning…he says enter into it. Compassion steps into another person's reality long enough to help carry what they are carrying.
This is one of the reasons Jesus was so effective in ministering to broken people. He listened. He asked questions. He saw beyond the symptoms and recognized the deeper wounds beneath the surface. He understood that healing often begins when people feel heard and understood. This is why Relationships with those we desire to minister with and to are so important.
Obviously, Jesus knows everyone’s hearts whether the person realizes it or not. But as a Pastor I promise you if you take the time to build the relationship with those you minister to and with, before, during and after you minister it will be a worthwhile endeavor that everyone will be blessed from. Proverbs 18:13 provides a warning many of us need to remember: "To answer before listening—that is folly and shame." How much pain could be avoided if believers practiced that verse more consistently? How many wounded hearts would feel safer sharing their struggles if they knew they would be heard before they were judged? Take a moment to build the relationship because there are people sitting in our churches every Sunday carrying burdens they have never spoken aloud. Some have experienced grief, betrayal, addiction, failure, loneliness, depression, or disappointment. They do not always need someone to immediately tell them what to do. Often they need someone willing to listen long enough to understand what they are going through.
So, the question today is not whether people around you are hurting because many are. The question is whether you are listening long enough to understand their pain before trying to explain it. Because healing often begins when somebody cares enough to listen before they lecture.
Serving Christ Together
Pastor Doug