12/02/2024
Deferring To Others • Just One Way To Love Your Neighbor
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To defer does not mean you agree ...
To defer does not mean you are wrong ...
To defer does not mean you do not care ...
To defer does not mean you have lost your mooring ...
To defer does not mean you are spineless.
Sometimes it simply means you are committed to "fighting" only those battles that are really worth fighting.
Sometimes it means nothing more than saying, "I love you ... you are my neighbor ... and I will support you in anyway I can."
And saying it because you really mean it.
If it's not a life or death ...
Or a heaven or hell matter ...
It's not wrong to defer to another.
It's not necessarily an indication of weakness ...
Quite often it's a sign of humility ...
And strength.
Love your neighbor all the time • Defer to your neighbor whenever possible.
Love,
Jody
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Consider this passage • Gen 13.5-12
The flocks and herds of Abram and Lot were more than the land could support if they remained togther.
When tensions arose between their respective herdsmen, Abram asked Lot where he wanted to settle.
Whatever land Lot chose, to the right or to the left, Abram was content to live in the other.
Lot saw and chose the "well watered" region eastward, in the plain of Jordan.
And Abram lived "in the land of Canaan."
To be sure, there are more significant elements going on in this passage. Not to diminish them at all by not bringing them up here ... just wanting to note the easy-to-miss attitude of deference that Abram demonstrated. It says something powerful about his character in this context.
Other examples:
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-> • David repeatedly deferred to Saul, God's anointed • 1 Sam 24.1-7, 26.9ff
-> • David deferred to Abigail, re Nabal • 1 Sam 25, esp 25.14ff
-> • John the baptizer deferred to Jesus • Jn 1.15
Other passages:
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with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, • Eph 4.2, NKJV
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. ¶ Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross. Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth, and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. • Phil 2.3-11
Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; • Col 3.12
Let the lowly brother glory in his exaltation, • James 1.9
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With hopes that we will, as much as possible, defer to others whenever we can ...
For their good ...
And for God's glory.
Double love,
Jody
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Image by Thanks for your Like @ Pixabay • text edit - jla • orig post: 12/01/2021