09/02/2019
Fight for your marriage. God brought you together for a purpose. You chose your spouse for a reason, not a season!
One persons actions leads to another persons reactions. Too many don't want to admit their faults. They don't want to accept accountability of what they are or are not doing in their relationship. They want to hide what they are doing because it's wrong. This is why so many marriages fail. Some will run from their marriage so they don't have to face the guilt of what they have done and what they aren't doing. In this, they may choose to completely cut off their spouse and try to blame them for all of the poor choices they've made: p**n, s*x dating websites, adultery, addictions, stealing, etc. But running from the problems and not getting to the root of it will cause the person running a lifelong entanglement of regret, heart ache, misfortune, and ultimately can lead them straight to hell.
This also leads their partner in to a world of chaos, confusion, heart ache, disparity, grief, depression, suicidal thoughts, and can push them in to doing things they wouldn't normally do. It affects the Spirit, mind, and heart. This is why communication is so important and vital not only to the marriage but to each individual. Each person has their own flaws but when you love someone you try to magnify the good, not the bad & ugly. You talk through the bad and ugly but not judge. Don't repay evil for evil or make temporary choices that will lead to a lifetime of regret.
The Bible teaches us that if we see a brethren doing wrong then we are to approach them. When this happens, the devil will get very defensive and accuse you of judging when the fact is you're trying to love them through it and help them with correction. If they won't hear or change, then we are to go to an elder of the church and approach them together but if the one has cut the other off, there is no way to approach. This sets up a hurt and grief like no other because you aren't working through it. Some would say, dust your feet and walk on. Just divorce them, you don't deserve this. But when you have a genuine (agape, aheb) love for someone it isn't that easy. And when you have a Christ like heart, you forgive them. Some would say, well just because you forgive them doesn't mean you have to stay in the relationship: no you don't but it also doesn't mean that the grass will be greener on the other side. Nor does it stop the heart ache or pain-even for years to come. The worst mistake I've ever made is trying to move forward when I really wasn't ready to. I admit, that's my mistake. I'm just being real here, speaking from experience...sorry if it hurts anyone.
What happened to couples who fought for their marriage-"til death do we part". The evils of this world are destroying families. I know first hand. This affects children and what is it telling our children?! When the going gets tough, bail out?! That's why the divorce rate is so high today. No, when it gets tough, you fight harder. How do you fight when one of the partners continue cheating, or in their sin, or go AWOL?! On your knees! Prayer! Seeking God! Fasting! Having true warriors join with you in the fight! But beware of wolves in sheeps clothing! Know who is truly for you and who is against you!
God's word says: Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let no man separate. Matthew 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Know that the devil is out seeking to rip your family apart. Have your full armor on! Pray for your spouse! Pray together! Seek God together!
Matthew 18:15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell [it] unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
Galatians 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. 2 Bear he one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.