06/01/2026
From the Pastor’s Pen: You Are Not the Exception
A few months ago I heard about a man who never missed a Sunday sporting event his son was involved in. He never failed to meet a deadline for work, he could make up the time on Sunday nights. He never made mid-week study because… well he was busy at home. When someone asked him why he hadn’t been in church for over a month, he simply, (but very proudly,) said, “I pray in the car every Sunday and I am a very spiritual person. God and I have our own thing going.” He was serious. In his mind he had found the exemption clause. He obeyed in one area—private prayer—so the clear command to gather with God’s people simply did not apply to him.
That story is more common than we want to admit. We can fall into the same sin. We read God’s Word, we hear it preached, and then we quietly insert a personal footnote: “This applies to everyone else, but not to me. My situation is different. I have my reasons.” The title of this writing is blunt because the disease is deadly: “You are not the exception.” No one is.
The danger is not that we fail to obey perfectly. None of us does. The danger is that we have convinced ourselves—and sometimes the people around us—that we are still “spiritual” while living in open disobedience. We think obedience in one area cancels out neglect in another. We claim busyness as our get-out-of-jail-free card. And all the while the Lord looks on and says, “You are not fooling Me.”
James saw this self-deception coming. He wrote, “But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves” (James 1:22). The word “delude” means to deceive with false reasoning. That is exactly what we do. We reason our way out of obedience and then congratulate ourselves on how spiritual we still feel. But the mirror of God’s Word does not lie.
We can come up with a variety of excuses, such as, “I obey here, so I’m exempt there.”
You know the line: “I don’t get to church much anymore, but I pray all the time.” It sounds humble. It even sounds devout. But it is a direct contradiction of Scripture. Hebrews 10:24-25 commands us, “and let’s consider how to encourage one another in love and good deeds, not abandoning our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.”
Notice the phrase “as is the habit of some.” The writer is not talking about people who miss once or twice because of illness or travel. He is talking about a settled pattern of absence. And he does not offer an exemption for those who say they pray instead. Prayer is commanded—absolutely. But it never cancels the command to gather. One act of obedience does not purchase a voucher for disobedience somewhere else.
Think of King Saul. God gave him a clear, non-negotiable order to destroy the Amalekites and everything that belonged to them. Saul obeyed most of the command. He won the battle. But he spared King Agag and the best of the sheep and oxen. When the prophet Samuel confronted him, Saul’s defense was classic selective obedience: “I did it to sacrifice to the Lord.” Samuel’s answer still echoes: “Does the LORD delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed than the fat of rams” (1 Samuel 15:22).
Saul was not the exception. You are not the exception. Your private prayer time, no matter how sincere, does not excuse you from the public assembling of God’s people. Your online sermon binge does not replace the living body of Christ. God does not grade on a curve. Partial obedience is still disobedience.
The second is the excuse of busyness: “I don’t have time.”
This one shows up for both prayer and Scripture. “My life is crazy—kids, work, travel, responsibilities. I just don’t have time to pray like I should.” Or, “I wish I could read the Bible every day, but my schedule won’t let me.”
Let’s be honest. Every one of us has the same twenty-four hours. Moses led two million complaining Israelites through the wilderness and still met with God. David ran a kingdom, fought wars, and wrote psalms. The Lord Jesus Himself, during the busiest weeks of His ministry, “got up early in the morning while it was still dark” to pray (Mark 1:35). The apostle Paul, chained in a Roman prison, told the church at Thessalonica, “Pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
The issue is not time; it is priority. Jesus put it plainly: “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” (Matthew 6:33). When we say we have no time for prayer, Scripture or church, we are really saying that we have no time for God and that something else sits on the throne of our schedule. That is not busyness. That is idolatry.
Yet the person who uses this excuse often still sounds spiritual, at least to themselves. They drop a Bible verse in conversation. They ask for prayer on social media. They tell themselves , and others, “I’m just in a busy season.” And everyone nods and says, “We understand.” But the Lord does not nod, (and He understands all to well).
First John 2:4 is clear: “The one who says, ‘I have come to know Him,’ and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.”
You can convince your friends. You can convince your spouse. You can even convince yourself. But you will never convince the Lord.
The danger of these excuses is subtle and terrifying. They create a false sense of spirituality that hardens the heart. You start with small exemptions—“I’ll miss church this once”—and end up with a faith that is all talk and no walk. Jesus described people exactly like this in Matthew 7:21-23):
“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness.’”
These were not atheists. These were people who did impressive spiritual things. But they practiced lawlessness—that is, they lived by their own rules, their own exemptions. They thought they were the exception. On the day of judgment they will discover they were not.
So, what does full obedience look like? It is not complicated, but it is costly.
It means you stop negotiating with Scripture. When Hebrews 10:25 says “not abandoning our own assembling together,” you treat that as a command, not a suggestion. You arrange your schedule around the church, not the church around your schedule.
It means you stop saying “I don’t have time” for prayer and Scripture and start saying “I will make time.” You rise early like Jesus, or you stay up late like the psalmist who said, “O how I love Your law! It is my meditation all the day” (Psalm 119:97). You open the Bible before you open your phone. You pray without ceasing because you refuse to live independently of God.
Joshua 1:8 is not for the elite few: “This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it; for then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have success.” That promise is for every believer who will stop making excuses.
You are not the exception. The same commands that applied to the first-century church apply to you in the twenty-first. The same God who required full obedience from Saul requires it from you. And the same grace that covered David’s and Peter’s and mine—is available to you the moment you stop pretending.
Some of you have been living with these exemptions for years. Your prayer life is sporadic, your Bible is dusty, and your church attendance is hit-or-miss. Yet… you still call yourself a Christian. You still post the occasional verse. But deep down you know the truth: you are not spiritual; you are in sin.
The good news is that the same Lord who confronts you also forgives you. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). Lay down the excuses today. Repent of the self-deception. Return to the simple, daily, costly obedience that proves you really do know Him.
Because on the last day, no one will stand before the throne clutching an exemption clause. The only thing that will matter is whether we proved ourselves doers of the word. And the only people who will hear “Well done” are those who stopped telling themselves they were the exception.
You are not the exception! And if you think your spirituality is the reason you do not regularly attend Church, your wrong, it is your sin.
Let’s obey—fully, gladly, and without apology—starting today.