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May 25, 2026
Dear BodhiMind Friends,
The beginning of an audio book I listened to last night (while in a bath) made me think about the purpose of life. The book was fictional, and the person who was the main character at the start (I heard just thirty minutes) was described as depressed and as thinking for a long while how he might kill himself without his wife or children knowing that he'd intended to do so. Time-wise, that was all I wanted to listen to and, content-wise, the easy, factual tone of the narrative description bothered me. It seemed to be normalizing suicidal ideation, which I suppose can be a meaningful approach since it's not such an uncommon phenomenon and maybe the narrative goes on to offer a healthy way "out." I don't know. But I stopped listening (and probably won't return to it), But it got me thinking.
I asked myself whether I had ever, even subtly, had such ideation. I think the answer is no. I have thought about the topic many times and even whether I could seriously ever imagine contemplating such action, yet it seems too remote a state of mind/being for me.
Then I asked myself why. The first thought that arose as a response was that there are too many people in the world whose presence I value profoundly. I feel grateful for them, the gifts of their intelligence, kindness, joyful humor, insight and more. Something about the gifts that others offer, and the love I receive from them, makes me feel appreciated.
Then I reflected on how this reason seems selfish. It's about how my life is important, is worth preserving, because I am fortunate to have people in my life who give to me, who love me. I then thought that such selfishness is not such a bad thing, as it's not overtly hurtful and it's also imbued with much gratitude.
But then I asked myself if this was truly the main reason that I cannot imagine having suicidal ideations. And suddenly, my inner vision shifted. I saw myself in relation to others in a different light. What occurred to me is that it is not only the love from others that I cherish, but it is my capacity to love them that provides me perhaps the greatest joy and strength. I am grateful that I can love and care for others. This simple insight took firm hold of me.
I then realized that it is the presence of others in my life that makes this possible. Yes, sure, my inclination toward being a loving person also matters here, but it could not be fulfilled in the tiniest way without others.
This thought then led to another: What Buddhists call bodhicitta (or bodhimind) is simply the recognition that one's capacity to care for others can provide one's life with profound meaning, coupled with a commitment to growing and extending that capacity as greatly as possible.
This is the foundation of the Mahayana Buddhist path. And it is a key reason why when I was in college reading Buddhist texts for a class that many of the passages hit me so deeply... So much so that I left school for a year to think about what I really wanted to study, during which time I read some wonderful books on Buddhism and taught myself how to meditate. ....
The final thought I had (before leaving the bath!) was how powerfully healing bodhimind can be. I reflected on some people I have met - and many others I have heard about - who cannot find good reasons to go on living. It is very tragic that their minds and spirits feel stuck in such despondence, where they feel there is no more joy to live. And I thought about how precious could be the opportunity for them to orient their minds toward others. A key feature of their depression is its self-absorbed quality. "My" life is meaningless, they think. And I'm not making small their pain, or blaming them, as I know it is very difficult to turn deep thought patterns around from this tunnel-vision. But ... what about others? What might you be able to offer them? What opportunities can you create to bring some skill of yours, or just your time, into the lives of other people, even just one person? Everyone ought to be able to discover this impulse within them, even if it's buried beneath other habit energies. Might not the effort to reorient oneself in this way re-energize a depleted sense of life, breathe fresh air into the stuckness?
While this is a core part of the spirit of bodhimind, it has nothing to do with being "Buddhist." It's simply about finding more meaning and purpose in your by giving to others, even in small ways. And, of course, Buddhism offers much fine guidance for such a path of practice.
This spirit is at the heart of the untranslatable mantra Om Mani Padme Hum.
I repeat this mantra many times a day. It provides a pause from the crushing surge of modern drives... it turns my being toward a centeredness that dwells in compassion and joy. It is a practice that brings me peace.
May we all find more peace from our practice - whatever it may be.
- David Gardiner
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TUESDAY, May 26th, 6 pm: In-person and by Zoom, with David Gardiner
TOPIC: Meaning through Loving
Meditation together, and discussion.
And we will chant Om Mani Padme Hum
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THURSDAY, May 28th, 6 pm: by Zoom ONLY, with Karen Recktenwald
TOPIC: Awareness of the Structure of Your Practice
You can adjust a little bit here and there according to what you need to transform.”
“I would like to discuss a little bit on how to put together the whole suitable package of practice and structure it in a certain way for you. For a practice session to be complete, there are four steps that must be present…Refuge, Bodhicitta, Meditation, Dedication.” ~ Tsoknyi Rinpoche, Archives, June 26, 2020
Dear Friends,
One might call Daily Practice the bedrock of our Practice. How we practice meditation each morning, afternoon, or evening shapes our body, heart and mind. This daily practice conditions our body sensations, feeling tones, perceptions, thoughts, emotions, moods and energies, and of course our speech and actions. We’ll explore a couple of examples from different Buddhist lineages, of which there are so many varied possibilities. They all agree on one thing, that the best practice is the one that you actually do! Thus we follow the Middle Way and choose a structure that resonates in your heart and has a place on your daily calendar.
“There’s a lot of amazing philosophy to talk about, but the nuts and bolts of the practice is where I like to spend time. All the learning and insight emerge from you meeting your direct experience.” ~ Will Kabat-Zinn, Sunday Sangha, 5/3/2026
Very Important Announcement:
Three Upcoming Retreats teaching “Fully Being: A Path of Awareness, Healing & Insight,” with Adam Kane. Adam is Tsoknyi Rinpoche’s chief translator, and someone from whom I have learned so much. Feel free to email me with questions, [email protected]
May 29-31 (3 days – 2 nights, additional nights @ half rate) HERE. Drala Mountain Center, Colorado.
June 5-7 (3 days – 2 nights) Here Denver Shambhala Center, Denver, CO.
July 1-5 (4 days and nights, pay before 5/1/26 for 10% discount) HERE. Dorje Denma Ling Center, Nova Scotia
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