06/24/2026
WEDNESDAY, JUNE 24th, 2026
Melissa and I entered full-time ministry 37 years ago because we wanted to spend every hour of our lives loving God and loving people in the context of pastoring.
Today, we choose to do it again, love God and love people in the role of pastoring.
This post is not an attempt to polish our halos, because our halos are tilted and tainted. They don't always glow like they should. But hopefully there's enough reflection in them to see the face of Jesus.
In Luke 17:10, Jesus said:
"When you shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, 'We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do'."
I believe that's Jesus' way of saying: "Don't get big headed about it. Don't think you're the last coke in the desert. Keep a humble heart."
I could write a book on some of the challenges that exist in the role of pastoring, involving people. But people are WHY we and other pastors / shepherding couples, keep doing this. And we are people too. And we hope to extend as much grace to others as we both need.
If you see anything good in us, give God praise.
If you see anything bad in us, give us grace.
But I could write an entire LIBRARY on the blessings of this incredible "call" to preach, teach, counsel, visit, officiate, referee, lead, advise, etc.. The blessings FAR outweigh the challenges. Melissa and I are living the dream!!
We've been so blessed with precious friends. Lifelong loyal friends who entered our lives decades ago, or even a few years ago, and are still right here "in the trenches" with us. They've celebrated our strengths and prayed for our weaknesses. You know who you are because some of you are reading this right now.
Ministry can be such a "revolving door". Just ask any pastor couple. People come and go all the time, and you don't give your heart out easily. We pastors "build walls" too. We hurt, cry, fail, doubt, struggle, feel betrayed, blamed, and abused. But God sends some people - like some reading this - who sit with us in our pain, show grace to us in our weakness, and prove their friendship by showing up --- again and again and again.
We thank God for you. Yes, you.
And this post isn't aimed at anyone in particular. Oh wait, yes it is, it is aimed directly at those dear friends who didn't just SAY they "had our backs" but prove it year after year. Thank you. You help us remember to not become calloused and cynical.
Ministry is an awesome place to be. We highly recommend it if God has called you to do this full-time in some ministry capacity whether it's pastoring, missions, teaching, feeding, counseling, etc.. But do pray for discernment as you give your heart away. Love greatly, serve all, love everybody, but ask God for a few comrades who will "have your six", stay in the foxhole with you, tend to your wounds, let you succeed without feeling jealous or fail without feeling condemned and tossed aside.
Ask God for a few unmistakable, humble brothers and sisters who truly love you for who you are, not for how you make them feel or how catering you can be to their agenda. (Okay John, what happened? Who hurt you? ---- Before my Lord, in full integrity before God, I am happy, free, joyful, and filled with peace -- I simply feel these words flowing this morning for not only me but for anyone else who needs them.)
So find yourself a handful of the true, the lifers, real friends.
And cherish them. Because they are rare.
"A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity." — Proverbs 17:17
"Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends." ~ John 15:13