08/04/2026
DAY 3 - NOVENA TO ST. CLARE
Healing Broken Relationships and Family Struggles.
Intention: Today we pray for all who suffer because of broken relationships, painful divisions, family conflict, estrangement, divorce, betrayal, resentment, or wounds that have lasted for years. We ask Saint Clare to intercede for families who long for peace, but do not yet know how to begin again.
Saint Clare knew the cost of following God when family expectations and personal vocation came into conflict. As a young woman of noble birth in Assisi, she was expected to marry well and preserve her family’s honor. Yet, moved by the preaching and example of Saint Francis, she chose a life of radical poverty, prayer, and service. When she left home to dedicate herself to Christ, her family reacted with anger and tried to bring her back by force. Clare did not return hatred for hatred. She clung to God with courage, but she also remained a woman of peace, prayer, and steadfast love.
Her story reminds us that holiness does not always remove tension from family life. Sometimes doing what is right can be misunderstood. Sometimes love requires patience, boundaries, forgiveness, and trust in God’s timing. Clare’s witness teaches us that peace is not weakness. It is strength rooted in Christ. She did not allow bitterness to define her. Instead, she became a light for others, and even members of her own family, including her sister Agnes and later her mother Ortolana, followed her path of faith.
Today, many people carry similar wounds in quieter ways. A parent and adult child may no longer speak because of years of disappointment. Siblings may be divided by inheritance, jealousy, addiction, or old misunderstandings. A marriage may be strained by silence, exhaustion, financial pressure, or betrayal. Grandparents may ache for grandchildren they rarely see. Some families struggle with mental illness, grief, caregiving burdens, or the pain of words spoken in anger that cannot easily be forgotten.
Through Saint Clare’s intercession, we ask for the grace to begin with humility. Where reconciliation is possible, may God open a path. Where trust must be rebuilt slowly, may God give patience. Where boundaries are necessary for safety and healing, may God give wisdom without hatred. Where someone has been abandoned, rejected, or misunderstood, may God surround that person with faithful love and restore hope.
Prayer: Saint Clare, woman of courage, peace, and faithful love, pray for all who are suffering in their families and relationships. You knew what it meant to be misunderstood by those closest to you, yet you remained rooted in Christ. Help us surrender our anger, fear, pride, and grief to the Lord. Teach us to seek reconciliation without forcing it, to forgive without pretending wounds do not matter, and to love without losing the truth. Ask Jesus to heal what is broken, soften hardened hearts, protect the vulnerable, and bring peace where there has been conflict. May our homes become places of patience, mercy, honest conversation, and renewed hope. Amen.
Saint Clare of Assisi, pray for us.
by Sister Judith Ann Crosby, OSC, a member of the Poor Clares in Westwood, MA.
Poor Clare Nuns of Boston, MA