07/10/2022
“About seven years ago, my husband came to me and told me he had been struggling with his beliefs for years and didn’t want to go to church anymore. He had served a mission, we had been married in the temple, had four children, and I didn’t see this coming at all. I didn’t really know what to do or think.
“We had recently moved from New York City, and I was so grateful for our time there because living in such a diverse environment had taught me that God loves all of us and wants everyone to return to Him, regardless of where we are in our faith. I found myself drawing on this experience as I prayed to know what to do. We both agreed that our family and our relationship was more important than anything. He was still the same person I knew and loved, just in a very different place than I was spiritually. It wasn’t the right choice for us to put a wedge in our marriage because he was struggling with something different than I was.
“Initially, I was nervous about our family and friends and their reactions, but everyone was very supportive, and our community and congregation didn’t treat us any differently or like outcasts. It has been a great example to me of Christlike love. I have come to realize that everyone is dealing with their own personal struggles, and I am grateful that my experience has helped me to grow in my capacity to understand others’ trials and to be able to listen without judgment. One thing is certain: we are here to love. As Christians, we are called to love people where they’re at, without expecting them to change.
“Heavenly Father has blessed us with the wonderful gift of families, where we can practice lifting each other up and making each other feel safe. It’s very important to me that everyone in my home feels loved and valued, regardless of what they believe.
“Finally, something that gives me peace is knowing that my heavenly parents and Savior know me personally and are aware of my needs and desires. They know that I am truly doing my best.” —Hailey
