09/04/2026
Together Through Grief 💗
“Throughout the course in Kyiv, they cried, and in the Carpathians, they laughed. That was the best evidence that the journey they had taken together had not been in vain,” says Chaplain Serhii Bashynskyi, who a year ago initiated the creation of a support group for the wives and mothers of fallen service members.
The culmination of the initiative was a trip to the Carpathian Mountains, organized with the support of Music Mission Kiev.
For several days, the women rested, took in the mountain scenery, and enjoyed local food. Each evening, they reflected on the day and prayed, thanking God for everything.
For many, it was their first chance since the full-scale invasion to simply get away, rest, and briefly experience a world far removed from the war.
At first, there were ten women in the group, mostly young wives of fallen heroes and several mothers who had lost their children.
Some later left because they were not yet ready to talk about their pain, while others already had significant experience with individual therapy.
For those who remained, a circle of safety and trust gradually began to form. Chaplain Serhii’s wife, Viktoriia R., involved young people from St. Paul’s Church, and together they organized activities for the children of some of the women who attended the meetings.
Over time, these relationships extended beyond the scheduled meetings. After the main program ended, the informal fellowship continued over coffee and during outings into nature.
Gradually, the women began returning to life, making plans for the future, and some even becoming open to new relationships.
One participant, who had lost her own son, joined the military and now works with families of those who have been killed or gone missing. She is also studying psychology to professionally help others experiencing a similar loss.
There, in the Carpathians, the group once had to cross a mountain river. It was frightening, and taking that first step was difficult as the rushing water did not look safe. Chaplain Serhii went first. He fell into the water and was completely soaked, but still helped everyone reach the other side.