06/11/2020
From the Pastor’s Desk
June 10, 2020
Anger
This week in our own communities, we have seen anger erupt and spread across our entire nation. This is the worst kind of anger. It is a violent anger. It is directed at the country in which we all live. It will accomplish absolutely nothing. After this is over, we won’t be any better off than we were before. In fact, we will probably be worse off.
But my intention today is not to talk about just the riots, but about anger of many kinds and how they fit into our faith in Jesus Christ. We will start small and build up to the more severe cases of anger.
When I was a child of about 8 years old, I was a regular attender of the YMCA. Unfortunately for me, some other guy had taken to bulling me. I was absolutely terrified. When I told my Dad about it, he said, “You know what your going to do? The next time you go to the Y I don’t want you to talk or say Hi to anyone but walk straight up to that guy as fast as you can and hit him right in the mouth”. I objected. Dad, I couldn’t. Not right in front of everybody! What if I miss and he gets me? All he said was just, “Do it or you will be a coward the rest of your life.” So, the following week, my Mom drove me to the Y and she was white as a ghost; so was I. I was shaking in the car. And she said, “Go get it over with.” She later said that dropping me off was the hardest thing she ever did.
So, I walked into the Y and I was ready. My knees were knocking as if there was no tomorrow. But I looked and looked and couldn’t find the bully. He wasn’t there. But I was on pure adrenalin. Something had to give. At that moment, another guy brushed past me and said, “Get out of my way.” And I hit him right in the mouth. I think the bully must have heard about that incident because he never showed up again.
I’m not saying that what I did was right but my Dad knew what my future would be if I didn’t. Was it self-defense? Was it Christ-like? Probably not. But I will say this, though Jesus said to turn the other cheek, a young boy has to establish his own ego before he can move on.
As we reach adulthood, the temptation is to retaliate in a more verbal style. This can be difficult. Adults argue all the time, even in churches. As adults we must vigilantly control our anger. The Bible says in Proverbs 15: 1,
“A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
And James 1: 19-20 says,
My beloved brothers, understand this:
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteousness that God desires.
We should ask ourselves, am I a person who can take abuse and not retaliate? I pray we are. I believe God will give us the strength not to retaliate when those times come. And we can always work on getting better and better at not retaliating.
I’m not saying all decisions regarding retaliation are this simple. What about the riots, the National Guard, the behavior of the press, the lashing back of the President? I think we all need work on this one. So, lets hold off on the criticism until we’ve proven that we, ourselves, can take the pressure.
May God be with us all and fill us with his love.
Amen