09/08/2026
Goodmorning everyone it’s Tuesday I challenge you today to do something unexpected for your spouse or someone in need. Here is today’s devotional.
Fight for Your Marriage, Not Against Each Other
Scripture:
> “And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” — Ephesians 5:21 (NLT)
Marriage was never promised to be easy. Two imperfect people bring different personalities, backgrounds, habits, expectations, and struggles into one life together. There will be disagreements. There will be days when communication is difficult. There may even be seasons when you wonder how you became so distant from the person you once felt so close to.
But marriage is not about finding someone you will never struggle with. It is about making a covenant with someone and choosing to keep fighting for that covenant even when life gets difficult.
Sometimes husbands and wives become so focused on winning arguments that they forget they are on the same team.
Your spouse is not your enemy.
The enemy would love nothing more than to turn small disagreements into bitterness, bitterness into resentment, and resentment into distance. He wants husbands and wives keeping score instead of showing grace. He wants pride to keep someone from apologizing. He wants hurt feelings to become walls.
But Scripture reminds us that love does not keep a record of wrongs.
Marriage requires two people who are willing to say, “Our relationship matters more than my pride.”
Sometimes that means apologizing when you would rather defend yourself.
Sometimes it means listening instead of preparing your next argument.
Sometimes it means forgiving even when the hurt was real.
Sometimes it means choosing your spouse again when the feelings are not as strong as they once were.
And sometimes it means getting on your knees together and admitting, “Jesus, we cannot do this without You.”
A strong marriage is not built simply by loving each other. It is built by both people loving Christ.
Picture a triangle. The husband is on one side, the wife is on the other, and Christ is at the top. The closer both people move toward Christ, the closer they naturally move toward one another.
That is why one of the greatest things you can do for your marriage is strengthen your relationship with Jesus.
Pray for your spouse.
Pray with your spouse.
Read Scripture together.
Worship together.
Serve together.
Protect your marriage from anything that tries to take the place that belongs to your spouse.
Marriage is a covenant, not a convenience.
There will be moments when love feels effortless, and there will be moments when love becomes a decision. In those moments, remember how Christ loves us. Jesus did not love us only when we were easy to love. He loved sacrificially.
Ephesians 5:25 says:
> “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” — Ephesians 5:25 (NLT)
That kind of love asks, “How can I serve you?” instead of always asking, “What are you doing for me?”
Your marriage does not need two perfect people.
It needs two surrendered people.
Two forgiving people.
Two praying people.
Two people who have decided that when problems come, they will attack the problem instead of attacking one another.
So when marriage gets difficult, do not immediately start looking for an exit.
Start looking toward Jesus.
Remember why you chose each other.
Start communicating again.
Start praying again.
Start dating again.
Start encouraging each other again.
And above everything else, invite God back into every area where distance has started growing.
Challenge:
Today, ask yourself: Have I been fighting for my spouse, or fighting against my spouse?
Then do something intentional. Tell your spouse what you appreciate about them. Apologize if you need to. Put the phones down. Spend time together. Pray together.
Small acts of love done consistently can rebuild things that slowly became weak.
Prayer
Father, thank You for the gift of marriage. Help us remember that our spouse is not our enemy but someone You have called us to love, honor, serve, and encourage. Remove pride, bitterness, selfishness, and unforgiveness from our hearts. Teach us to communicate with grace and forgive the way You have forgiven us. When our marriage becomes difficult, help us run toward You instead of away from each other. Keep Christ at the center of our home and strengthen our covenant every day. Help us fight for one another, pray for one another, and love one another with the sacrificial love You have shown us. In Jesus’ name, amen.