06/02/2026
Forgiveness
Ephesians 4:32 KJV
“32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
Forgiveness is one of the hardest commands in the Christian life, but it is also one of the most Christlike.
It is easy to talk about forgiveness until we are the ones who have been hurt. It is easy to preach forgiveness until we are the ones who have been wounded, betrayed, disappointed, mistreated, or misunderstood.
Yet the Bible does not present forgiveness as optional. It is not a suggestion for when we feel like it. It is not something we only offer when the other person deserves it. Forgiveness is a command from God and a reflection of the grace we ourselves have received.
We forgive because we have been forgiven.
The Demand for Forgiveness
Jesus made forgiveness a serious matter.
Matthew 6:14–15 KJV
“14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
Those are strong words.
God is not saying that we earn salvation by forgiving others. Salvation is by grace through faith. But He is showing us that a heart that refuses to forgive is a heart that has forgotten how much it has been forgiven.
When we look honestly at Calvary, we lose the right to hold grudges.
Christ forgave us when we were guilty.
Christ forgave us when we were undeserving.
Christ forgave us when our sin had offended a holy God.
Christ forgave us fully, freely, and faithfully.
So how can we receive mercy from God and then refuse mercy to others?
Forgiveness does not mean the hurt was not real.
Forgiveness does not mean the wrong was acceptable.
Forgiveness does not always mean trust is immediately restored.
Forgiveness does not mean there are no consequences.
But forgiveness does mean we release the debt into the hands of God. It means we refuse to let bitterness rule our spirit. It means we choose obedience even when our feelings are still wounded.
The Danger of Not Forgiving
Unforgiveness is dangerous because it never stays small.
What begins as a hurt can become a grudge.
What begins as a grudge can become bitterness.
What begins as bitterness can poison the heart.
Hebrews 12:15 KJV
“15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;”
Bitterness is called a root because it grows underneath the surface before it is ever seen outwardly. A person may smile, work, serve, sing, and go through the motions, while bitterness is quietly growing in the heart.
And bitterness does not only trouble us. The verse says, “thereby many be defiled.”
Bitterness affects our attitude.
Bitterness affects our worship.
Bitterness affects our family.
Bitterness affects our friendships.
Bitterness affects our church.
Bitterness affects our testimony.
Bitterness affects our walk with God.
Someone once said bitterness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The truth is, bitterness usually hurts the bitter person most.
It keeps old wounds fresh.
It replays old conversations.
It rehearses old offenses.
It steals present joy.
It blinds us to present blessings.
The person who hurt you may have moved on, but bitterness keeps you chained to the moment of injury.
That is why God calls us to forgive. He is not trying to ignore our pain. He is trying to free our soul.
The Delight of Obedience
There is a peace that comes when we obey God.
Forgiveness may not be easy, but obedience always brings blessing. When we forgive, we are not saying the hurt did not matter. We are saying God matters more. We are saying peace matters more. We are saying obedience matters more. We are saying our fellowship with the Lord matters more.
Colossians 3:13 KJV
“13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
The greatest motivation for forgiveness is not that the other person deserves it. The greatest motivation is that Christ forgave us.
When we forgive, we become more like Jesus.
Think about our Lord on the cross.
Luke 23:34 KJV
“34 Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do...”
They mocked Him, beat Him, rejected Him, and crucified Him. Yet Jesus prayed for their forgiveness.
That is the spirit God wants to produce in us.
Forgiveness brings freedom.
Forgiveness brings peace.
Forgiveness clears the heart.
Forgiveness restores joy.
Forgiveness honors Christ.
Forgiveness protects our spirit.
Forgiveness allows us to move forward.
You may not be able to change what happened. You may not be able to make someone apologize. You may not be able to undo the damage that was done.
But by the grace of God, you can forgive.
You can lay it down.
You can give it to the Lord.
You can refuse bitterness.
You can walk in obedience.
You can choose peace over poison.