03/19/2025
The other day, someone asked if marriage was harder after attending ministry school. I thought the question was interesting. I wrote out a long answer about the changes that can happen in ministry school, the tools, the culture of leadership and how it would impact marriage. I deleted it all.
I ended up saying, “Marriage isn’t hard. Life is hard. Life can strain marriage but ultimately, the relationship should make life better and easier.”
When mess hits us from the outside, whatever is inside of us comes out: dysfunctional thinking, childhood wounds, bad habits/addictions, weaknesses… All of this impacts the connection between two people in any relationship. This can cause a lot of pain and conflict. But when the other person is also someone you love more than anyone else in the world, that relationship can be the very thing that gives you fuel to change and grow.
This is why premarital counseling is so important to me (and ongoing marriage education and help). Learning tools to navigate hardship is crucial for couples to stay connected.
I offer private premarital counseling and have a conference coming up called Prepare: Premarital Counseling. I’d love to help you start your marriage with the best tools possible!
