06/02/2025
‼️LET’S TALK ABOUT PROPHETIC & INTERCESSORY FRIENDS ‼️
Been thinking a lot lately about the very real embodied pain and psychological trauma of being a prophetic friend & intercessor.
This is something not discussed enough because most of our culture is godless and backslidden. But for those who carry this DNA, it is a necessary conversation, especially in the day of the rise of “mental health” conversations.
Let’s talk about it…
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To be a prophetic friend & intercessor means you are covenanted to the revealed will of God for a person’s life (Amos 3:7-8, Jer. 23:22), and are also called to stand & live in the “gaps” between that person’s life and the revealed will of God for their life (Jer. 27:18, Ez. 22:30). Your assignment to your friends is not just social and human, it is divine and cosmic. You engage in a realm of warfare concerning them and all that is attached to them because of the revealed will of God for their life (2 Cor. 12:7; Eph. 6:12-13).
The challenge is this, God’s will and thoughts are often as far as the Heavens are from the Earth from the will and thoughts of mankind (Isa. 55:9-12). Therefore, the “gap” that prophetic friends and intercessors are called to stand in is often huge and overwhelming. The lifestyle and obedience of your friends determines how big or small the “gap” prophetic friends and intercessors are called to fill. The “gap” is not just between our friends and danger/calamity, the “gap” is also between our friends and God’s highest purpose and calling for their lives.
This also means, the distance our friends have from the Lord’s revealed will can create a distance and fracture in such prophetic relationships. At times we think arguments, conflicts, and distance is due to natural occurrences of human difference, but most of the time in the case of prophetic friends & intercessors, such friction comes through the growing distance between God and our friends (Amos 3:3, 2 Cor. 6:14, James 4:4). When our friends are not in alignment with God, they will also not be in alignment with their prophetic friends & intercessors. They often distance themselves from anything that reminds them of God’s will, which creates tremendous emotional toil & deep distress.
A biblical model for this is the Hebrew Prophets. Often we look at the role of Hebrew Prophets to the Nation of Israel as leaders to followers. But the paradigm expands when we perceive it in our everyday context as friends to friends. The Hebrew Prophets were people who lived in the same nation as the people they were prophesying to, with the same nature and shared experiences. They were not prophesying from a lofty disconnected place, but from a relational place. They were friends to the nation they were prophesying to and interceding for. Therefore, we see a template in our everyday interactions with those we love.
Prophetic friends & intercessors have an agony like Jeremiah to his friends in Judah, who said: “My anguish, my anguish! I writhe in pain! Oh the walls of my heart! My heart is beating wildly; I cannot keep silent, for I hear the sound of the trumpet, the alarm of war.” - Jeremiah 4:19 ESV. True prophetic friends & intercessors will feel turmoil and distress at the lack of alignment in their friends. It will move their soul to deep heartbreak and anguish, at the sight of their friends being in a lower condition than God’s promise. Abraham J. Heschel conceptualises this as the “divine pathos”. Emotion generated not by human frustration, but divine interaction by the Spirit (Rom. 8:26).
There is a temptation to relinquish such a role, for the sake of the stability of the friendship. Replacing it with a more “human”, “indifferent”, and “normal” role. But the reality is, all throughout scripture, everything God wanted to accomplish, He did through partnership with willing people (Ps. 110:3). We cannot just say “leave it to God” and become emotionless, numb, nonchalant, and callous at the sight of the misalignment of those we were prophetically assigned to. To prophetic voices, most of the friendships in their lives are assignments and not simply organic developments.
In conclusion, to prophetic friends & intercessors across the world who are heartbroken by the things that break God’s heart concerning those you love, I say to you I understand. I am you, you are me. God has graced us for the “gaps” we stand in and fill. God has graced us for the rebellion that is so active in the hearts of those He died for. God has graced us with the fruit of the Spirit, in all patience and long-suffering, forbearance and kindness, joy and love.
It is not an easy task, but whatever you do, don’t stop being you. Your friends may not admit it, but they need you to be in consistent alignment with God. Why? Because you are the only reminder and representation of Him in season where they stop seeing and hearing Him. Your intercessory presence and uncompromising stance reminds them that God’s will is consistent despite the inconsistencies of their rebellion.