09/04/2026
Are you on the right path, doing your best, serving God, being there for others but on occasion something from the past creeps up?
So what is the difference between living in the past and understanding the past?
The Bible says:
“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established.” — Proverbs 24:3
Understanding matters.
I recently spoke with a young adult who said, “I have forgiven everyone. I have even been through counseling. I don’t understand why sometimes I still get depressed.” And I realized something, sometimes we are not going backward, sometimes we are grieving.
He had forgiven, but he had never fully grieved the loss of certain relationships, the childhood he did not get to have, and what should have been.
Grief is not only for funerals for the physical dead but grief can be for lost relationships or lost dreams, and opportunities!
Samuel mourned Saul while Saul was still alive. — 1 Samuel 15:35
Sometimes we grieve a relationship, a childhood, a dream, a family connection, or simply what could have been.
Forgiveness and grief are not the same thing.
You can forgive someone and still grieve what was lost. Being saved does not mean denying what happened. If you are driving down the right road and hit a bump, 'the memory' it is okay to stop, get out, and check the car. You are not turning around. You are making sure everything is okay so you can keep going.
Sometimes we need to do the same spiritually and emotionally, especially when a thought or memory creeps in.
You Ask, What happened? Why does this still affect me? Is there something I never understood or properly grieved? Is there a missing piece to my story?
Look at Moses.
Moses was raised in Pharaoh’s house, but when he grew older, Scripture says “he went out unto his brethren.” — Exodus 2:11
Hebrews tells us that when Moses came of age, he refused to be identified only as the son of Pharaoh’s daughter and chose to identify with the people of God. — Hebrews 11:24–25
Moses had to know who he was, what happened and where he came from because it was connected to where God was sending him! Because understanding his story was part of God preparing him for his purpose.
Sometimes we too need understanding for the same reason.
Not because we want to return to the past, but because there may be pieces of our story that help us understand ourselves, to become fully free, and better to accomplish the work God.
Paul said he was forgetting what was behind and reaching forward, but Paul never denied who Saul had been. He did not return to Saul, but he understood Saul and then continued his mission for Jesus.
So Father, today we pray:
Teach us to understand the past without becoming imprisoned by it. Your Word says, “By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established.” — Proverbs 24:3
So establish us through understanding. Help us grieve what needs to be grieved and release what needs to be released.
Like Moses, help us understand where we came from so we can better understand where You are sending us.
If there is something about our story we need to understand in order to finish the work you called us to do, like Moses bring it into the light.
Father, Your Word says the Spirit of Truth will guide us into all truth , John 16:13 and “you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” John 8:32
So lead us by Your Spirit of Truth.
Help us properly grieve what was lost like Samuel grieved the lost of his relationship with King Saul and let truth bring freedom.
We are not looking back to live there. We are looking back to understand to get our posture to continue forward in freedom, purpose, and the work You have called us to finish.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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