20/11/2017
Relax and enjoy your relationship
A good relationship is hard to find, in fact, sometimes even a not so good relationship is hard to find. So once you’re in one and things seem to be moving forward, what do you do to keep it going? It’s always a great idea to do things that interest you both, find ways to grow together and build your memories. Sometimes fear creeps in, which is normal and you wonder if he/she’s thinking of moving on or he/she isn’t satisfied with you. I don’t know anyone who hasn’t had this fear.
The problem begins when you try to live your life from this perspective. The honest answer is, you might lose him/her. He/she might leave for any of a thousand different reasons. However, if every encounter you have together is based in this thought, you may actually push him/her away. If we believe something bad is going to happen, we generally buckle down and wait for that bad thing. It’s no different in relationships.
You’ll start to question all of his/her actions to see if there’s an underlying motive about him/her leaving you. You’ll be suspicious of his/her texts and phone calls and e-mails. You’ll start asking in subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways for him/her to prove himself/herself to you. Your conversations will center around staying together or not staying together. You’ll actually be planting the idea of him/her leaving in both of your minds, and that may begin the process which wasn’t in the works before.
You’ll stop being the creative, funny, wonderful person you are who was so attractive to him/her. You’ll lose your sparkle. You’ll ask time and again for reassurance that will never satisfy you. You’ll convince yourself that he/she will leave and hang on to him/her too tightly, becoming the clingy person everyone warns you not to be. Or, on the flip side, you’ll ignore him/her and act disinterested because you’re sure he/she’s going to hurt you, so you won’t invest yourself in the relationship and he/she will look for that elsewhere.
You don’t want to lose him/her, so tell him/her that. Once. And be ready to take his/her reassurances that he/she isn’t going anywhere, and neither are you. Relax and enjoy your relationship. That’s the best thing you can do!
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