30/04/2024
🇬🇧 "3-Minute Game" by Betty Martin is a fantastic way to connect, a fun and insightful way to explore touch and consent. In this game, you'll get to experience different types of touch and learn to communicate your boundaries.
Remember that this is a game for adults, where the facilitator only provides you with rules, time, and space.
Be sure that you take full responsibility for your joy and pain 🙂 You are the only one who can clearly communicate your own boundaries, say "no," and even exit the game at any time without explanation. The key is to keep it respectful and mutually enjoyable.
RULES
Preparation phase - forming groups, starting with 2 people in the group (later 3 and more).
- One person is the "giver," and the other is the "receiver." Later they will switch roles.
Negotiation phase - establishing safe space and consent.
- The giver asks, "How would you like me to touch you, for 3 minutes?" (later - "how would you like to touch me, for 3 minutes?"
- The receiver makes a proposal (for example "touch my neck" or "I want to touch your neck"). If the giver agrees - we move to the Touch phase. If the giver does not agree - we keep negotiating, for example, the giver or receiver proposes "what about touching the right hand?". In case there is no agreement after 3 minutes - both players just sit and observe each other during the Touch phase.
Touch phase, after which there is 1 minute for each person to share feedback, if any.
Hint - examples of touch:
- Vanilla holding hands or sitting back-to-back. Hugs. Eye contact.
- Kiss, lick, bite
- Rubbing or static touch with hand, feet, head, back, and other body parts
- Scratching with fingers or nails
- Tickling, gentle and soft touch, playing with hairs, blowing
- Strong massage-like touch, squeeze, taps, and of course our favorite - slaps
More - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LuSSj4RBK1w
