29/09/2026
May ilan-ilang leaders, lalo na sa church, na nawawalan na ng interest na i-develop ang kanilang skills dahil feeling nila, “Alam ko na ’yan.”
Pero sa counseling and mental health, hindi sapat ang good intentions lamang. Hindi rin lahat ng pastoral advice ay appropriate para sa bawat situation—lalo na kung ang concern ay trauma, abuse, depression, anxiety, or repeated harm.
Minsan, ang advice ay:
“Patawarin mo na. Kung hindi mo siya patatawarin, hindi ka rin patatawarin ng Diyos.”
“Kapag sinaktan ka, ibigay mo pa ang kabilang pisngi. Huwag mo nang isumbong sa pulis para hindi masira ang church. Magpasakop ka.”
“Palampasin mo na.”
Pero paano kung paulit-ulit na?
Forgiveness should never be used to silence someone who is hurting. Submission should never mean tolerating abuse. And protecting the church should never come at the expense of protecting the wounded.
Youth Connect Stand
We believe that when someone is hurting, we should not simply ask, “Ano ang religious advice?”
We should ask:
Who is the right person to help?
A trusted person.
A safe community.
A qualified professional counselor or mental health professional who can provide ethical, practical, and Christ-centered care when appropriate.
Our churches, homes, and schools should become safe spaces for the broken.
Never silence the unspoken hurt.
Be the safe space. ❤️
And especially for pastors and leaders: stay teachable.
The world is changing. The challenges faced by Gen Z and Gen Alpha are different, and some approaches used in the past may need to be revisited, improved, or complemented by professional knowledge.
Our approach may change, but our foundation remains Christ.
We can continue to be grounded in Christ while being open to new learning, evidence, professional standards, and better ways of caring for people.
Because being Christ-centered does not mean we stop learning.
We grow. We listen. We learn. We care.
And above all, we make sure that the wounded do not have to suffer in silence.
This image is not ours. Photo owned by David Ruybalid.