IMS Luzon Field Family Department

13/05/2026

POISON THAT KILLS MEN

Once upon a time a beautiful girl got tired of her marriage life and wanted to murder her spouse.

One morning she ran to her mother and say to her " mother, I am tired of my husband I can no longer support his nonsense. I want to kill him but I am afraid Law of the land will hold me responsible, can you please help me mother?"

The mother answered:

- Yes my daughter I can help you, but, there is a little task attached.

The daughter asked "what task? I am willing and ready to assume any task attached in order to get him out"

OK, said the mother,

1..You will have to make peace with him, so that no one will suspect you when he is dead.

2.. You will have to beautify yourself in order to look young and attractive to him

3.. You have to take good care of him and be very nice and appreciative to him

4.. You have to be patient, loving and less jealous, have more listening ears, be more respectful and obedient

5. Spend your money for him and don’t get angry even when he not give you money for whatever

6. Don’t raise your voice against but encourage Peace and love so that you will never be suspected when he must have died.

Can you do all of that?

Asked the mother.

Yes i can. She replied

OK, said the mother.

Take this powder and pour a bit in his every day meal, it will slowly kill him.

After 30 days the lady came back to her mother and said.

Mother, I have no intention of killing my husband again. As of now I have grown to love him because he has completely changed, he is now a very sweet husband than I ever imagined.

What can i do to stop the poison from killing him?

Please help me mother.

She pleaded in a sorrowful tone.

The mother answered;

Do not worry my daughter. What I gave you the other day was just Tumeric Powder. It will never kill him.

In reality, you were the poison that was slowly killing your husband with tension and dispassion.

It was when you started loving, honouring and cherishing him that you saw him change to a nice and sweet husband.

Men are not really wicked, but our way of relating with them determines their responses and feelings towards us.

Women if you can only show respect, dedication, love, care and commitment to your husband he will 100% be there for you. ❤️

09/05/2026

18/04/2026

Dealing with real husband over ideal one.”:

*1. Don’t expect perfection*
She warned against marrying with the idea that you’ll “reform” your husband later. _“Let not one step be taken in the marriage relation until the subject has been prayerfully and carefully considered.”_ — _The Adventist Home_, p. 44
Once married, though, you work with reality. _“Bear with the faults of others as you wish them to bear with yours.”_ — _AH_, p. 112

*2. Love covers faults*
Instead of dwelling on flaws, she told wives to cultivate love and respect. _“If the wife is cheerful, kind, and patient, she may disarm her husband of his petulance.”_ — _AH_, p. 228
Nagging or constantly pointing out failures only makes things worse.

*3. Influence him through Christlike character*
If a husband is harsh, unspiritual, or intemperate, the wife’s best influence is her own consistent Christian life, not lectures. _“Many a husband who is not a Christian may be won to Christ by the consistent course of his wife.”_ — _AH_, p. 349

*4. Bear burdens together, but don’t enable sin*
She said a wife should help her husband and make home pleasant, but she should never participate in or excuse wrong habits like drinking, dishonesty, or Sabbath-breaking. _“Never should the wife sanction a course of action in her husband which her conscience condemns.”_ — _Testimonies_, Vol. 1, p. 308

*5. Patience and prayer over criticism*
_“When difficulties arise, talk less and pray more.”_ — _AH_, p. 445. She taught that real change comes from God working on the heart, not from a wife trying to control her husband.

*6. Your happiness isn’t all on him*
_“Happiness is not found in the possession of what we want, but in the contentment of mind.”_ — _AH_, p. 111. She encouraged wives to find peace in Christ first, so they don’t demand from a husband what only God can give.

*Buod sa Filipino:*
Para kay Ellen White, ang “reality husband” ay may mga kahinaan. Huwag mong asahan na perpekto siya. Sa halip na pintasan, maging matiisin, mapanalanginin, at magpakita ng pag-ibig na tulad ni Cristo. Maaari mong impluwensyahan siya sa pamamagitan ng magandang halimbawa, pero hindi mo responsibilidad na baguhin siya sa sapilitan. At huwag mong ikompromiso ang iyong konsensya para lang pagbigyan ang mali niya.

18/04/2026

*ideal family*:

*1. Christ is the center*
_“The home is to be a Bethel, a place where God dwells.”_ — _The Adventist Home_, p. 19
The ideal family has daily family worship — morning and evening prayer, Bible reading, and singing. Without God, the home loses its purpose.

*2. Love is the ruling principle*
_“The home should be to the children the most attractive place in the world, and the mother’s presence should be its greatest attraction.”_ — _AH_, p. 21
No harsh words, no faultfinding. Kindness, courtesy, and affection should mark every interaction.

*3. Parents work as a team*
Father and mother are to be united. The father is not a tyrant, and the mother is not a slave. _“The will of God is that the husband and wife should be joined together in His work, to train their children.”_ — _AH_, p. 212
They counsel together and back each other up in discipline.

*4. Children are trained, not just raised*
_“The work of parents is not simply to provide for the physical wants of their children, but to train them for God.”_ — _AH_, p. 161
This means teaching obedience, self-control, industry, and reverence from a young age. _“Never let the sun go down upon your wrath”_ applies to parents and kids too.

*5. The home is orderly and simple*
She urged cleanliness, order, and simplicity. No extravagance or worldly show. _“The house of God’s people should be a model for others.”_ — _AH_, p. 22
Meals are simple, healthful, and at regular times. Intemperance in food or habits is out.

*6. It’s a missionary training center*
_“The family circle is the school in which the child receives its first and most lasting lessons.”_ — _AH_, p. 182
The ideal family practices hospitality, helps the poor, and prepares children to serve God. It’s not just happy — it has a purpose.

*7. Heaven begins at home*
_“The home that is beautified by love, sympathy, and tenderness is a place that angels love to visit.”_ — _AH_, p. 18
For her, the ideal family is a foretaste of heaven, where each member reflects Christ’s character.

*Buod sa Filipino:*
Ang ideal na pamilya ayon kay Ellen White ay may Diyos sa sentro, pinamumunuan ng pag-ibig, nagkakaisa ang mag-asawa, tinuturuan ang mga anak ng pagsunod at paggalang, maayos at payak ang pamumuhay, at ginagamit ang tahanan para maglingkod sa iba. Ito ay maliit na langit dito sa lupa.

10/03/2026

He [Satan] is busily engaged in influencing those who are wholly unsuited to each other to unite their interests. He exults in this work, for by it he can produce more misery and hopeless woe to the human family than by exercising his skill in any other direction.
Many marriages can only be productive of misery; and yet the minds of the youth run in this channel because Satan leads them there, making them believe that they must be married in order to be happy, when they have not the ability to control themselves or support a family. Those who are not willing to adapt themselves to each other’s disposition, so as to avoid unpleasant differences and contentions, should not take the step.
This question of marriage should be a study instead of a matter of impulse. LYL 29.1 - LYL 29.3

08/03/2026

Before giving her hand in marriage, every woman should inquire whether he with whom she is about to unite her destiny is worthy. What has been his past record? Is his life pure? Is the love which he expresses of a noble, elevated character, or is it a mere emotional fondness? Has he the traits of character that will make her happy? LYL 23.1

06/03/2026

“A prudent wife is from the Lord.” “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her.” “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.” “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” Proverbs 19:14; 31:11, 12, 26-29; 18:22 LYL 20.1 - LYL 20.2

04/03/2026

Before giving her hand in marriage, every woman should inquire whether he with whom she is about to unite her destiny is worthy. What has been his past record? Is his life pure? Is the love which he expresses of a noble, elevated character, or is it a mere emotional fondness? Has he the traits of character that will make her happy? Can she find true peace and joy in his affection? Will she be allowed to preserve her individuality, or must her judgment and conscience be surrendered to the control of her husband? As a disciple of Christ, she is not her own; she has been bought with a price. Can she honor the Saviour’s claims as supreme? Will body and soul, thoughts and purposes, be preserved pure and holy? These questions have a vital bearing upon the well-being of every woman who enters the marriage relation. LYL 23.1

03/03/2026

There are very many girls who have married and have families, who have but little practical knowledge of the duties devolving upon a wife and mother. They can read, and play upon an instrument of music; but they cannot cook. They cannot make good bread, which is very essential to the health of the family. They cannot cut and make garments, for they never learned how. They considered these things unessential, and in their married life they are as dependent upon some one to do these things for them as are their own little children. LYL 19.3