21/08/2023
KAYUMANGGI, I LOVE YOU
“BECAUSE I LOVE YOU “
the 11-year old son answered his mother
who was asking him why he volunteered
to help out in the garden today when the
day before he had only reluctantly done so.
Hearing the exchange, the father concluded:
“I had never been prouder of my son.”
Concluded. But how does the story start?
The day before, the father had called his son
to help unload soil from a truck to the garden
boxes in their yard. The son said he was
busy. But the father saw that the boy was
only playing games in the family computer.
So he prevailed on him to help out.
In the garden, though indeed shoveling soil,
the boy asked dad why they were doing this.
The father was lost for word at first.
Neither he nor his son were all into flowers or
vegetables or any of the things what would be
grown into the garden boxes.
But his wife loved gardening.
He thought while his son waited for an answer.
Finally, he said,
“WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE,
YOU SERVE THEM.”
And he went on, telling the son that he wanted
him to grow up to be the kind of man who
serves his family, friends, and community.
“This,” he continued while gesturing to the soil,
the garden boxes, the wheelbarrow, the shovel,
“This is what love looks like.”
The boy did not seem to like the answer.
But the next day, when he volunteered to help
and was asked by his mother why, he replied,
“BECAUSE I LOVE YOU!”
What about me, I ask myself.
If an 11-year-old boy learned the meaning of love
and service, what about this man of 70-plus years?
How do I love and serve my family, my community,
my friends, my enemies, my country?
I write this on the anniversary day of the death of
a man who had proclaimed his love for his country
and came home to serve it in whatever way he
could but was gunned down on arrival.
He loved and was ready to serve.
What about those who are supposed to serve,
who ran for government office to serve, do they love?
Love enough to serve, serve enough to love honestly,
sincerely, humbly and justly?
Our country is in the midst of hard questionings.
What to do, how to do it, and when?
If those who claimed victory and were so proclaimed
in the last national elections are shown to have won
under dubious grounds, would they be asked to leave?
By whom? Would they obey? Would they resist?
If they vacate their positions, who would take their
places legitimately? How will our country be run?
Who will set directions? Who will obey?
Difficult questions these which each thinking Filipino
needs to wrestle with personally, and the whole
nation must answer on moral, legal, constitutional
grounds. Who will guide?
We who claim to be a predominantly Christian people
or at least a religious nation, do we turn to God
for guidance and direction, ask the Holy Spirit for
inspiration and moral strength? We should.
And we should obey. This is surely not easy as we
are a nation of more than a hundred million citizens
with varied backgrounds, aspirations, and dreams.
But we are not unique in this. Every nation in the world
that claims democracy does not and cannot always
have unanimity, only consensus. So must we all be
ready for a national examination of conscience and
a majority-based decision on where to go and why.
Decades ago, Wilfredo Dayo Nolledo wrote :
“Are we a nation?
Our elections say we are. Why deny it?
Democracy being our special vanity,
we must preserve the allegory of strength,
for that, too, is nationalism.
You and I are a Filipino,
and we are the Philippines….”
“If you go to church, and I oversleep,
we have no faith.
If I go to school, and you never leave the movie house,
we have no culture.
If you plant this earth with rice, and I eat only chocolates,
we have no industry.
If I dream all night, and you do not act all day, we have no destiny.”
“Carpenters cannot build a home,
nor statesmen a nation.
You and I, constituted of and composed by love,
WE are a NATION.
For neither YOU nor I, ALONE, is a COUNTRY:
only WE.
I am MAN, you are the PEOPLE,
and WE are the WORLD.
“We are the lines carved in a miracle of
patience in the palm of our descendants.
And what we have, this country, is a GIFT
that we must hold tight,
as a garden embraces its water.
“The nobility of the Filipino is ultimately
the soul of man. These islands have made
brown his skin, but his life is not dark.
“Time creates its own temples,
and for us, our temple is TIME.
Time will come when we will survive
science and cling to our religion.
We will see the loss and the labor
that has made this our home.
“We will say, with the pain of pride,
‘KAYUMANGGI, I LOVE YOU!”
Let humanity be our summation
and may history forgive us
for we know not what we do…”
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~ Fr. Roderick C. Salazar, Jr., SVD