Jesus Our Light Christian Fellowship

04/04/2026

04/04/2026

It's easy to take your spouse for granted. Time, familiarity, and human nature are all contributors. It's vital to never forget that your spouse is perhaps God's most obvious blessing in your life! Maybe you agree, maybe you don't. Consider the following.

If we REALLY believe in the gospel, our greatest treasure must be Christ. As his followers, we are called to be molded, refined, and remade into Christ-like people (a.k.a. sanctification). This truth remains whether your marriage is great or going through a rough patch.

In times of joy and hardship, your marriage is a reminder of the selfless love and grace needed by you and supplied by Christ on the cross. In marriage, you GIVE grace and love, then you RECEIVE grace and love—both in portions and ways only available in covenantal marriage.

Whatever season you're going through, your spouse is one of God's most obvious blessings. The beauty of lifelong covenant is that it gives love enough time and room to mature into something truly lasting.

Your marriage is a gift and a blessing from God himself. Hold tight to that truth!

Always remember what a blessing your spouse is—and tell him or her that you appreciate them regularly.

In fact, start by tagging him/her in the comments with a kind word or two!

Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena

Note: This is a huge topic! If you're looking for more depth on this, make sure to check out our book "Fierce Marriage" (wherever books are sold). In it, we outline every aspect of marriage and how the Gospel changes everything.

08/03/2026

This is love without posturing, without faking anything. That is when love is the fullest.

There are two core aspects of intimacy.

1) Being totally honest and open with your spouse.

2) Loving them when they are totally honest and open with you.

This is love without posturing, without faking anything. That is when love is fullest.

May you and your husband/wife be 100% honest with each other. And may you love each other 100% when imperfections are revealed.

It's risky, but always rewarding to love purely. The safety of true love isn't found in hiding imperfections or putting up a facade, but rather in your commitment to learning how to love each other even when your unloveable traits are plain to see.

Love fiercely,
Ryan & Selena

07/03/2026

Your spouse is not your opponent.
You are on the same team.

The moment you start fighting each other instead of fighting for each other, the enemy has already gained ground.

Protect your unity.
Guard your words.
Choose grace over pride.
Pray together instead of pulling apart.

It’s not husband vs. wife.
It’s husband and wife vs. the problem.

Stay united. 🤍

09/01/2026

You are the closest person to your spouse's heart. They've let you in, trusted you... given you access. Marriage is truly unlike every other human relationship.
The question remains: how will you steward their heart now that you have access? Will you encourage or tear down? We urge you to encourage each other intentionally. Here are a few ideas.

1) Think before you speak, then act on your spouse's behalf.
Knee-jerk reactions can be harmful because they usually take into account only one perspective...one set of feelings: your own. What if we stopped and thought about the other person's perspective and sought understanding? What if we considered carefully how our words might affect them at that moment? What if loving them was our primary objective in that moment...how would we react? Love advocates for the other, especially in those tender moments.

2) Consider what God is doing in them and encourage it.
God is at work on the hearts of his children every single day. The Holy Spirit is refining and reshaping our beliefs, passions, and attitudes to be more reflective of Christ. Can you see God's craftsmanship at work in your spouse? How can you encourage growth? What scripture is on your mind... maybe it's something God wants you to share with your husband/wife?

3) Remember why you love him/her and express it.
Life gets busy and we can grow lazy with communication. Take a step back and recall the reasons you love your spouse, then intentionally express it. Stop him/her in their tracks, square off, look eye to eye, and encourage. Speak words that give life by reminding him/her what you love about them. Or, write a simple note. Whatever your method, thoughtful encouragement received from a spouse is unlike any other.
We hope you and your spouse enjoy a marriage that is mutually encouraging. Words have the power to give life or death (Proverbs 18:21), and choosing life-giving words is a sure way to make your marriage feel...alive.

Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena