31/08/2024
💙 A note on Father’s Day, From Saint Augustine’s, Auckland:
Days like Father’s Day often come with cultural expectations of joy and celebration, as if everyone’s experience of having and being a father has been a positive one. Fatherhood and father relationships can be complex and messy and we can’t expect a day focused on fathers to be simple. Sometimes the day is so painful and the church so insensitive, that many people choose to stay home on Father’s Day Sunday rather than have salt rubbed in their wounds. But rather than hiding on this day or pretending the pain isn’t there, what if we decided to rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn?
At Saint Augustine’s we have them all: people who have great fathers, people who have lost fathers, people who never had a father, people who have a strained relationship with their father, fathers who have difficult relationships with their children, fathers who have lost children, those who long to be fathers, those who have missed their chance to be fathers, those who have chosen not to be fathers, and those who are about to become fathers.
Yes, we celebrate Father’s Day, but we are not a greeting card company and we don’t shy away from the realities it can bring up. There will probably be tears — from all of those mentioned above. Being a Dad isn’t easy, and not being a Dad isn’t easy either. Having a Dad isn’t always easy, and not having a Dad isn’t easy either. There is room for everyone at God’s table, and we think life is better done with a community of people who love and care for you even when it’s complex.’