13/05/2023
When our children are angry, what they need is for us to come closer, despite the behavior they display that may be sending us in the other direction.
An angry child is a scared child. Underneath anger is fear and tension and the best way to help our children with these feelings is to apply the process we call "Staylistening". Staylistening is our connection tool where we come in close and connect (with a warm expression, open body language, warm eye contact if that is appropriate) and we listen and allow our children to express themselves knowing that these feelings just need to get out. We don't interrupt, rationalize or try to fix. Their brain won't be responsive to our wellmeaning advice in those moments.
In times of intense anger, we need to remember that that's just the gunk that needs to come out and they don't necessarily mean anything they say or do. They simply need it all out. If we can stay close and empathise, we assist in the healing process.
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