17/06/2026
So this is Men’s Health Week. I’m aware that many of the followers of this page are not men (and thank you!) so why should this week be of any interest to you? I’ll get back to that in a moment. Men, we need to know that we are valued for who we are, not merely for what we produce. Yes, the capitalist values system tells us that we are ‘useful’, and have ‘responsibilities’. Implicit in both those words is that we are valued when we live for others, when we subordinate our own needs, health, emotional and mental health in favour of others. That doesn’t mean those needs go away—like tectonic plates they merely slide under the weight of others. Until the earthquake. We don’t need to make a big show of getting core needs met—visiting our GPs, checking blood pressure, paying attention to the niggles that don’t go away, or the flat feeling of just grinding on regardless. When your spirit is starving you can’t really be there with others in any meaningful way.
If you are not a man, or if you have a close friend or partner who is a man, one of the best things you can do is just ask ‘How are you?’ and really listen to the answer. Don’t accept ‘Fine’ or ‘I’m OK’, (or my personal favourite, ‘Well enough’). Ask the next question: what does fine or OK mean? Well enough for what? Sit down as you ask. Show you are prepared to listen.
Jesus spent a lot of time hanging around with men (probably women too, but that’s for another time), and yes he talked a lot about having no fear, or fronting up to authorities. What we don’t hear so much about is what happened in his private, intimate conversations with the guys, who were mostly tradies. The closest we get is his vigil in Gethsemane on the night of his arrest. He poured out his heart to God. That intimate relationship with God is a key feature of Christianity, one that sets it apart from other world religions.
Why not give it a go? If you’re not sure how to start, have a chat with your local vicar or someone whose relationship with God seems solid. We are at St Paul’s in Ruakākā this Sunday. I hope we’ll see you there.