09/08/2026
๐จโ๐ฉโ๐งโ๐ฆ Correct your kids because you care
Christians who lived in the first century knew that children needed discipline. The writer of Hebrews assumed that they had experienced this first-hand:
๐ โwe have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverenceโ (Hebrews 12:9).
A number of references in the Book of Proverbs serve as a background to this New Testament instruction (3:11-12; 13:24; 19:18; 22:15; 23:13-14).
I make no claim to be an expert in child discipline. I am a son, son-inlaw, brother, brother-in-law, father, father-in-law, and a grandfather.
Along lifeโs way I have learned a number of things about disciplining kids. Many lessons I learned from my own poor choices as a father. Others I observed in the practice of other parents.
I have also heard a number of true stories about how parents deal with their kids. Some of those accounts are delightful, while others are real horror stories.
For what it is worth, I recently jotted down a list of principles for parents to consider when it becomes necessary to discipline their kids. The order in which I have listed them is irrelevant.
Here goesโฆ
๐ โข Give oodles of positive reinforcement for things well done.
Verbal pats on the back can help a child develop positive self-esteem.
Things like: โgood for you,โ โway to go,โ โgreat job,โ โweโre proud of you,โ โwe love you,โ or โyouโre such a good ____.โ
It seems that the only things that some kids hear from their parents are negative, things like โNo,โ and โQuit it.โ Those words definitely have a place, but kids need to hear positive things, too.
โ๏ธ Make the punishment equal to (fair for) the misbehaviour.
A teenage boy purposely hitting his little sister in the face with his fist is a more serious offence than his arriving home one minute after curfew, donโt you think?
If so, should not such action receive a more severe punishment?
๐ If you believe parents need both love and discipline in raising their children, take a moment to like and share this with another parent.
๐ฃ๏ธ โข Watch your tone of voice.
Excessively raising our voice or using stinging sarcasm can cause our kids to resent us.
โค๏ธ โข Express disappointment when a child has misbehaved, but never refer to him or her using such terms as stupid, dumb, moron, or idiot.
๐ง โข Set your rules/boundaries of behaviour, and keep โem!
As soon as you do not enforce a rule that you have set, you immediately have the reputation of being a non-enforcer. Your words no longer carry the weight that they should, and that spells big trouble.
๐ โข Pray with your kids. Pray for them. Pray for them in their presenceโ
if you are willing to tell God how much you care about them and their lives, then that lets them know that you really do care for them.
Thatโs important.
โ Roger Campbell
๐ฌ What do you think is the most important principle when disciplining children: consistency, fairness, encouragement, controlling our tone, or prayer?
If this article encouraged you or gave you something to think about, please like, comment, and share it with others. โค๏ธ Parenting is a tremendous responsibility, and these conversations can help Christian parents encourage one another as they seek to raise their children with both love and discipline. ๐