21/07/2020
Becareful Before You Step To The Alter, Or Accept Him.
A Friend Now Needs Our Help.
DONT HIT ME BECAUSE I AM A WOMAN
I was at the mall last weekend to buy groceries, and a familiar face walked past me.
I was so engrossed in my shopping and checking out prices of food on the shelf to notice or pay attention.
But, I did notice that we passed by each other in the aisle of the fruits section.
So at the check-out, we met again, and alas! I knew her.
"Wow! Mirabel! It's been awhile!" I exclaimed in honest surprise.
We hugged so tight because we missed each other.
I'd left the country to go be a married woman and start a family. But she lived here, and I'd only just returned to the country after 12months.
But, I noticed clearly that her shine and glamour was gone. She was a shadow of her bubbly self.
I thought it was the pandemic or being a weekend, she didnt feel dressy to go shopping. Or perhaps, she was ill and was just recovering and didnt feel like dressing up to go shopping.
I made excuses for her appearance because I knew the chic standing before me was a go-getter, ambitious, beautiful and has that alluring s*xy charm that tends to draw people to her. But, all that was absent this evening.
Then, she sighed and said to me, "let's talk outside". And I quickly responded in the affirmative.
Outside the supermarket, she began her story.
She had been dating this guy since 2018, and he seemed okay. He was the proper gentleman. Hed check up on her ten times daily, send her monthly allowances, serviced her car and even paid her rent.
He was the type of guy women put in prayer request to God for. Did I mention he was handsome too?
I also knew him.
Then at the end of 2018, he wanted to marry her to show his commitment and even promised to foot the bill.
He lived by his words, and by March, 2019, they were legally married.
THE NIGHTMARE BEGAN
He would beat her mercilessly before having s*x with her, and afterwards, would call his friend, a doctor, to provide medical care for her.
Then, he would go shopping, both home and abroad, to make up for his sick fe**sh.
He told her he gets a good or**sm just by beating her and then having s*x with her - His wife - a woman hed swore to love and protect.
Sometimes, it'll be just some slaps, other times, some kicks, but she's sure to be violated each time the urge for s*x comes upon him.
Then he stopped friends and family from visiting and would physically hurt her whenever that rule was violated.
She lived alone, frustrated, in fear and regret for not knowing his true character before marrying him.
Other times, he would make her beg for s*x. He would make her grovel, lick his dirt-stained feet for him to have s*x with her, and while she's naked, kneeling on the floor and licking his toes, he'll call her terrible names, and she must answer, and it'll make him h***y and he'll slap her around a few times, and then have s*x with her in the most dehumanizing manner.
Gradually, she lost herself, her dignity, her willpower, and even started to believe she deserved the treatments meted to her by her husband.
"Why didn't you try to leave him or get help?"
I asked her.
She said, she did, but he threatened to kill her entire family in a slow and agonizing way.
He even attempted it with her six years old nephew one day to prove his point, and she literally freaked out and begged him not to, and she'll never tell a soul.
SO SHE SUFFERED IN SILENCE
My friend wears expensive designer labels and drives a $60,000 SUV, but is in fear and of her hubby. She's lost all the glamour and finesse of a beautiful half-caste Indian babe.
Her pain is indescribable even writing about it cannot describe her pain adequately.
Before you start to cast aspersions on her character, allow me tell you a bit about her.
She's the last of 3 siblings for her mom. She's a hardworking young lady and has her own business that gives her $8,000 average, monthly. She's very independent, kind and humble.
I'm not saying she doesn't get help from men, but she's not dependent on men for survival. I believed her when she said, she married for love.
Because I've tried understanding the pain and disappointment when you've been tricked into marriage due to one's honesty and truthfulness.
I left my friend that evening, but begged her to just come and stay with me and give up everything.
With tears in both our eyes, she said,
"Jane, do you know how many times I've wished to just run away from here?
But, the fear of what this man would do to my family, keeps me from running away".
I hugged her, we cried so much and didnt care that people were staring at us, and painfully let her go.
QUESTIONS ASKED:
- Where did she go wrong?
- What turned a supposed decent man into a demon?
- What can she do to save herself & family?
With love...
Thank you.
