17/10/2022
No matter what happens never do for your INTENDING SPOUSE what only his/her parent should do for them, except you are doing it CHARITABLY.
E.g, NEVER PAY SCHOOL FEES FOR A LADY YOU HAVE NOT MARRIED, at least don't do it hoping to marry her in the end.
Someone called me today and I pitied him. He actually sponsored the girl he "impregnated" into school for about two years, now they dont have any child together. What happened was that after she got pregnant for him, he went with his family to see her family and they settled and he payed some fine for what he did and for "blood cleansing", but no dowry was paid, the parent said they could do that later, that all that matters is peaceful marital home.
She later had miscarriage, after which they sat down together to discuss the "dowry" issue. He asked her whether he should go and pay for her "dowry" or sponsor her SCHOOLING first, she suggested that she would go to school first and after that they would go on to pay the dowry, since the most important thing is peace in the home. She persuaded him and he fell for it and didn't pay her dowry. Her school fees runs in over a hundred thousand each session.
Then one day he said they began to have issues over a supposed "pastor" calling her often, even at odd hours of the night, he complained and then the issues got worse and she left the house, but that wasn't all...guess what? three months later, she got married to that "pastor" in the name of "we were never married, just two people living together." She told him. And would you blame her? She was right, they were never married.
Young man, if you know you are not doing it as "charity" but investment, NEVER DO IT. No matter how much the love is shacking you.
And you young woman, don't be a YAHOO GIRL, if you dont want him in marriage MAKE IT CLEAR when you see him making some moves.
This is what makes some women to be CURSED FOR LONG.