02/10/2026
🕌 JUMU‘AH KHUTBAH 🕌
TOPIC: PARENTING WITH WISDOM, HIJAB WITH KNOWLEDGE, AND FAMILY MODESTY IN ISLAM
DATE: Friday, 20th R.Thani 1448AH || 02nd September 2026CE
FIRST KHUTBAH
All praise is due to Allah. We praise Him, we seek His help, and we seek His forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evil of our souls and from our bad deeds. Whoever Allah guides, none can misguide, and whoever He leaves astray, none can guide.
I bear witness that there is no god worthy of worship except Allah alone, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger.
O brothers and sisters, fear Allah as He should be feared, and do not die except as Muslims.
Dear brothers and sisters,
Today’s khutbah is based on an important question asked by one of our group members:
Is it right for a father to force all his daughters to cover their faces, and say anyone who refuses is no longer his child?
And is it correct for a wife and her sister-in-law to sleep in one room when there is another room available?
These are real family matters, and Islam gives guidance with balance, wisdom, and mercy.
PART ONE: *👉MODESTY IS OBLIGATORY, BUT FORCING WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE IS WRONG*
Allah commanded modesty for believing women:
﴿ وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ ﴾
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts and not display their beauty except what is apparent, and to draw their head coverings over their chests.
Surah an-Nur 24:31
So hijab is a command from Allah.
But brothers and sisters,
The niqab (face covering) is a matter where scholars differed:
Some scholars like Imam Ahmad and Imam Ibn Taymiyyah held it is obligatory.
Others like Imam Abu Hanifah, Imam Malik, and Imam al-Shafi'i held it is recommended, not mandatory.
So a father may encourage it strongly, but he cannot declare his daughter “not his child” for not wearing it.
That is ظلم (oppression).
Islam does not teach cutting family ties over such issues.
Allah says:
﴿ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا ﴾
If they strive to make you associate with Me what you have no knowledge of, do not obey them, but accompany them in this world with kindness.
Surah Luqman 31:15
Even with shirk, Allah still commands good companionship.
So how can a father disown his child over niqab?
👉KNOWLEDGE FIRST, NOT FORCE
*My special wise reminder to all parents:*
👉If a father is ready to guide his daughters, protect them, and even help find righteous husbands when the time comes, then he is doing something good.
■ But it must be with teaching, wisdom, and explanation.
■ Not threats.
■ Not harshness.
■ Not forcing.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Make things easy and do not make things difficult. Give glad tidings and do not drive people away.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 69
Sahih Muslim 1732
A husband also must not force his wife with threats like:
“If you don’t wear niqab, I will divorce you!”
Allahu Akbar.
This is action without knowledge.
True guidance is:
● Knowledge first
● Mercy first
● Patience first
Because if a woman wears niqab only because she was forced, she may remove it once the pressure is gone.
But if she wears it for Allah with understanding, it becomes worship.
PART TWO: 👉MODESTY INSIDE THE HOME
Now the second question:
Is it correct for a wife and sister-in-law to live in one room when another room is available?
👉Brothers and sisters,
Islam teaches privacy and boundaries.
The Prophet ﷺ warned strongly about free mixing inside families.
He said:
“Beware of entering upon women.”
A man asked: “O Messenger of Allah, what about the brother-in-law?”
He replied:
“The brother-in-law is death.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5232
Sahih Muslim 2172
Meaning: Fitnah is very dangerous with close relatives because people become careless.
So if there is another room available, it is better and safer for each woman to have privacy.
Islam is a religion of protection, not suspicion.
PART THREE: *👉SHA‘BAN IS HERE, RAMADAN IS CLOSE*
Dear brothers and sisters,
● We are in the month of Sha‘ban.
● Ramadan is very close.
This is the month to prepare:
Prepare your heart with repentance
Prepare your home with peace
Prepare your wealth with charity
Prepare your nights with prayer
The Prophet ﷺ used to fast a lot in Sha‘ban.
Narrated Aisha (RA):
“The Prophet ﷺ never fasted in any month more than Sha‘ban.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 1970
So let us prepare for Ramadan with sincerity.
👉Second Khutbah
All praise is due to Allah.
Send peace and blessings upon the Prophet ﷺ.
O Allah send blessings upon Muhammad and upon the family of Muhammad.
🤲DUA: O Allah, guide our parents to raise their children with wisdom and mercy.
O Allah, guide our daughters and sons to modesty with understanding, not force.
O Allah, protect our homes from fitnah and immorality.
O Allah, allow us to reach Ramadan and benefit from its blessings.
O Allah, feed the poor through us and make us people of charity.
🤲 O Allah, help our brothers and sisters in Gaza.
O Allah, grant safety, relief, and victory to the oppressed in Gaza.
O Allah, bless Ghana, Nigeria, and all Muslim countries with peace, righteousness, and strong Muslim families.
O Allah, bless Ghana and Nigeria with unity, guidance, and protection from trials.
🤲 Rabbana atina fid-dunya hasanah wa fil-akhirati hasanah wa qina ‘adhaban-nar.
✅👉 FINAL WORDS
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
"If Allah guides one person through you, it is better for you than the best of worldly treasures."
📚 Sahih al-Bukhari, Hadith 4210
📚 Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2406
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ also said:
"If anyone calls others to right guidance, his reward will be equal to those who follow him."
📚 Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2674
📖 Riyad as-Salihin, Hadith 174
Subhanaka Allahumma wa bihamdika, ash-hadu an la ilaha illa Anta, astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika.
Imam
Mallam Nurudeen Babatunde Balogun