22/08/2022
4 Important Things You Need to do to Know The Right Person
It saddens me to know that most singles in my generation major on the minor and minor on the major when it comes to the choice of who to marry.
In this era, many chase boyfriend and girlfriend relationship without acknowledging God in their lives, and yet they want to enjoy a godly and successful marriage.
Some would seek God, and at the same time date one or more persons to know the right person because they believe heaven helps those who help themselves. Is that really true?
One of the best things you should do to know the right person to marry is not by having a boyfriend or girlfriend, or date as many as you would before you settle for the "right" person.
In fact, you don't need to look for who to marry to find the right person, I know this may not resonate with your religious knowledge, but you need to do the following things first.
1. Know God
Before the fall, Adam knew God to the point that whatever he commands on earth, so be it in heaven. Whatever names he gave the animals, God did not change it.
He became a custodian of spiritual authority on earth, and he enforced the compliance of God's will on earth.
What has this got to do with knowing who to marry?
They that KNOW their God shall be strong and do exploit (Dan. 11:32b).
One of the ways of doing exploit is to marry the right person without struggle, sweat, or toil. And this can only be possible when you know God yourself.
Knowing God is not a function of knowing a man of God or going to church, it is having a personal relationship with God that you'd cultivate every day.
You know God by knowing His word, and you do His will. You know God when you get to the point where you have nothing else to lay claim to, but that He becomes your all in all.
When you know God, it would be easy for you to know the right person to marry because His Spirit would reveal things to you - of the present and things to come.
In addition to knowing God, SERVE GOD.
A woman of God once said that a good husband or wife is a salary paid by God when you serve Him.
You may not need a pulpit or social media platform to serve God. Serve God through personal evangelism or intercede for others as He lays it in your heart.
Serve God now that you're single. Serve God faithfully and be devoted to His will.
"If they obey and serve him, they will spend the rest of their days in prosperity and their years in contentment. But if they do not listen, they will perish by the sword and die without knowledge" (Job 36:11-12 NIV)
The next thing to do is...
2. Discover and fulfill your divine purpose
God is a God of order and priority. He won't give you a partner when you don't know why He created you. Because Adam knew God, He gave him assignments to do before He gave him a partner.
Don't be among those who strove to find who to marry without knowing why they exist. This is the confusion of the highest order!
God didn't create you for the sake of creation. No, you weren't created to add up the world's population. And you are not alive just for the sake of being alive.
You were created and alive for a PURPOSE which is divine. Know why He created you. It is not enough to know your strengths, weakness, or temperaments.
Your divine purpose is different from your career, passion, talent, or ambition. It would cost you prayers for God to reveal it to you because the secret things belong to God and the revealed things belong to (you) us if we enquire.
When you know your divine purpose, you will know who you should never marry, without wasting your time to pray concerning it.
The knowledge of your divine purpose makes your marriage interesting. Do you know that marriage is more than having mind-blowing s*x or living as couples?
Don't be among those who marry, gave birth, became parents and grandparents, and then leave this world without making a positive and eternal impact. Life and marriage are more than fun.
“Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart for my holy purpose. I appointed you to be a prophet to the nations.” (Jeremiah 1:5 GW)
Discover your (holy) divine purpose and fulfill it.
3. Pray
Even if you were to date ten different men or women in your lifetime, doing these won't help you find the right person. You know why? The real person in a man or woman can't be known through observation, but by revelation.
Pray, so you won't be a victim.
The heart of men and women is deceitful above all things, who can know it? You can't know the heart of a deceiver or pretender, but prayer is a sure way to find out.
When you PRAY, it saves you from heartbreak or falling into the wrong hands. What dating or friendship cannot reveal, prayer will discover.
In the place of prayer, all hidden things are exposed. When you know God and He knows you, He won't leave you in the dark when liars come your way to deceive, provided you depend on Him.
"Be careful for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God" (Philippians 4:6 KJV)
And lastly...
4. Be patient
I can't overemphasize this.
It takes patience to marry right and to enjoy marriage.
There are several people who would come into your life with the appearance of the right person, but they are not the right one for you.
That he or she looks like the right person doesn't mean they're the one. Do not say "I do" until you have been told to do so, having prayed, checked how compatible you are, and your knowledge of God has helped you discover the right person.
Don't rush. Don't be desperate to marry next year when you haven't done the needful this year. Let no one put you under pressure, and don't put yourself under one.
It is better to be PATIENT and marry the right person than to allow impatience to push you into the hand of the wrong person.
Being patience might make it look like nothing is happening while you wait, but when you know God, I can assure you that He is preparing something great for you that would compensate your waiting years.
"That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises" (Hebrews 6:12 KJV)
Never subscribe to worldly philosophies of "marry your best friend" (of course God won't give you an enemy in marriage); or how to attract the right person (there's no fail-proof formula for that).
Any tips that take out the place of knowing God intimately, the place of prayer, patience, purpose discovery, and its fulfillment in your quest to find the right person cannot guarantee you God's best; but a validation of your will.
The bitter truth, however, is that you don't need to have a boyfriend or girlfriend to know the RIGHT PERSON you should marry.
Know God yourself, know your divine purpose, and be busy with its fulfillment, be patient, and the rest would be taken care of by God when you pray.
