23/08/2026
[22/08, 05:36] Rev Oluwafemi Folajimi: Saturday August 22, 2026.
Learning to Speak the Truth in Love.
Ephesians 4:15 ESV
"Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ"
Truth without love is a weapon. Love without truth is a whisper that never helps. But when the two meet, we look more like Christ.
Paul doesn’t tell us to choose between truth and love. He ties them together with one small word: _in_. We are to speak _the truth in love_. That means love sets the tone, the timing, and the motive before the words ever leave our mouth.
Growth in Christ isn’t measured only by how much Bible we know. It’s measured by how we use what we know with the people closest to us. In the home, it’s easy to correct a spouse or child and call it “being honest.” In the church, it’s easy to point out what’s wrong and call it “standing for truth.” But if love isn’t the engine, honesty becomes criticism and truth becomes a courtroom.
Jesus is our model. He never avoided hard truth. He told the Samaritan woman about her sin, and He told Peter “Get behind me, Satan.” But He did it _in love_ — to heal, to restore, to call people higher. His goal was never to win an argument. His goal was to grow people up “into him who is the head, into Christ.”
Speaking the truth in love asks three questions first:
1. Is it true? Don’t speak from assumptions.
2. Is it loving? Will this build up, not tear down? Ephesians 4:29
3. Is it the right time? Love is patient enough to wait for a door to open.
When love motivates us, truth doesn’t wound unnecessarily. It disciplines, it encourages, it redirects. And it keeps trust safe in our homes and in our church families.
Reflections:
1. Check your motive: The next time you need to address something hard, ask “Am I saying this to help them, or to prove I’m right?”
2. Add grace to your words: Before you speak, pray “Lord, let love guide my tone.” A soft tone can carry a hard truth without crushing a person.
3. Grow up, not just speak up: Maturity isn’t just knowing the truth. It’s delivering it in a way that makes people want to run toward Jesus, not away from you.
4. Repair quickly: If you’ve spoken truth without love, go back. Apologize for the delivery, reaffirm the person, and speak again in love.
Prayer:
Father,
Thank You for speaking truth to me, and for never doing it without love. You correct me and You call me beloved in the same breath.
Teach me to grow up into Christ in every way. Help me to speak the truth, but never without love as the motive. Guard my home and my church from words that wound under the cover of “just being honest.”
Give me wisdom to know what to say, courage to say it, and gentleness in how I say it. Let my words build, heal, and point people to Jesus, who is the Head.
Make me someone whose truth can be trusted because my love is real.
In Jesus name, Amen.
Daily Motivation with Rev Oluwafemi Folajimi. 08029593983. [email protected].
[23/08, 03:43] Rev Oluwafemi Folajimi: Sunday August 23, 2026.
Guard Your Heart Against Lust
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”
Matthew 5:8 NIV
“I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?”
Job 31:1 ESV
Lust starts small. A glance. A scroll. A thought we tell ourselves is “no big deal.” But Jesus said sin begins in the heart before it ever shows in our actions.
Lust trains our heart to crave what God hasn’t given us yet, and it makes us view people as objects instead of image-bearers. The goal isn’t shame. The goal is purity and freedom.
Guarding your heart here means setting gates: what you watch, what you follow, what you think about. And it means filling up. You can’t just fight lust by saying “no.” You replace it with truth, worship, and real connection. The Holy Spirit helps you take every thought captive and turn back to God.
Purity isn’t about being perfect. It’s about keeping your heart soft toward God so you can actually see Him.
Reflections:
1. What am I exposing my eyes and mind to that fuels wrong desires?
2. What’s one boundary I can set today: an app limit, an accountability check-in, a verse to memorize?
3. Where do I need to invite God to bring healing to desires that feel out of control?
Prayer:
Jesus, You made me for purity and love. Forgive me for the times I’ve let my eyes and thoughts wander. Help me make a covenant with my eyes like Job.
Give me strength to walk away, and give me Your Spirit to renew my mind. Fill me with Your presence so I don’t look for satisfaction in the wrong places.
Make my heart pure, that I may see You more clearly today.
In Jesus name, Amen.
Daily Motivation with Rev Oluwafemi Folajimi. 08029593983. [email protected].