Bedroom Therapy

12/05/2025

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05/03/2025

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03/03/2025

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02/02/2025

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*BHMC CHARITABLE FOUNDATION REPORTING*

21/07/2024

*LET'S LEARN FROM THIS HADITH.........*

*"حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ يَزِيدَ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ زِيَادٍ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي عُمَارَةُ بْنُ غُرَابٍ، أَنَّ عَمَّةً لَهُ حَدَّثَتْهُ، أَنَّهَا سَأَلَتْ عَائِشَةَ أُمَّ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا، فَقَالَتْ‏:‏ إِنَّ زَوْجَ إِحْدَانَا يُرِيدُهَا فَتَمْنَعُهُ نَفْسَهَا، إِمَّا أَنْ تَكُونَ غَضَبَى أَوْ لَمْ تَكُنْ نَشِيطَةً، فَهَلْ عَلَيْنَا فِي ذَلِكَ مِنْ حَرَجٍ‏؟‏ قَالَتْ‏:‏ نَعَمْ، إِنَّ مِنْ حَقِّهِ عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لَوْ أَرَادَكِ وَأَنْتِ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعِيهِ، قَالَتْ‏:‏ قُلْتُ لَهَا‏:‏ إِحْدَانَا تَحِيضُ، وَلَيْسَ لَهَا وَلِزَوْجِهَا إِلاَّ فِرَاشٌ وَاحِدٌ أَوْ لِحَافٌ وَاحِدٌ، فَكَيْفَ تَصْنَعُ‏؟‏ قَالَتْ‏:‏ لِتَشُدَّ عَلَيْهَا إِزَارَهَا ثُمَّ تَنَامُ مَعَهُ، فَلَهُ مَا فَوْقَ ذَلِكَ، مَعَ أَنِّي سَوْفَ أُخْبِرُكِ مَا صَنَعَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ إِنَّهُ كَانَ لَيْلَتِي مِنْهُ، فَطَحَنْتُ شَيْئًا مِنْ شَعِيرٍ، فَجَعَلْتُ لَهُ قُرْصًا، فَدَخَلَ فَرَدَّ الْبَابَ، وَدَخَلَ إِلَى الْمَسْجِدِ، وَكَانَ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَنَامَ أَغْلَقَ الْبَابَ، وَأَوْكَأَ الْقِرْبَةَ، وَأَكْفَأَ الْقَدَحَ، وَأطْفَأَ الْمِصْبَاحَ، فَانْتَظَرْتُهُ أَنْ يَنْصَرِفَ فَأُطْعِمُهُ الْقُرْصَ، فَلَمْ يَنْصَرِفْ، حَتَّى غَلَبَنِي النَّوْمُ، وَأَوْجَعَهُ الْبَرْدُ، فَأَتَانِي فَأَقَامَنِي ثُمَّ قَالَ‏:‏ أَدْفِئِينِي أَدْفِئِينِي، فَقُلْتُ لَهُ‏:‏ إِنِّي حَائِضٌ، فَقَالَ‏:‏ وَإِنْ، اكْشِفِي عَنْ فَخِذَيْكِ، فَكَشَفْتُ لَهُ عَنْ فَخِذَيَّ، فَوَضَعَ خَدَّهُ وَرَأْسَهُ عَلَى فَخِذَيَّ حَتَّى دَفِئَ‏.‏ فَأَقْبَلَتْ شَاةٌ لِجَارِنَا دَاجِنَةٌ فَدَخَلَتْ، ثُمَّ عَمَدَتْ إِلَى الْقُرْصِ فَأَخَذَتْهُ، ثُمَّ أَدْبَرَتْ بِهِ‏.‏ قَالَتْ‏:‏ وَقَلِقْتُ عَنْهُ، وَاسْتَيْقَظَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَبَادَرْتُهَا إِلَى الْبَابِ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ خُذِي مَا أَدْرَكْتِ مِنْ قُرْصِكِ، وَلاَ تُؤْذِي جَارَكِ فِي شَاتِهِ‏.‏"*


_'Umara ibn Ghurab reported that an aunt of his told him that she asked 'A'isha, Umm al-Mu'minin, "If a woman's husband desires her and she refuses to give herself to him either because she is angry or not eager, is there anything wrong in that?" "Yes," she replied. "Part of his right over you is that if he desires you when you are on a saddle, you must not refuse him." She said, "I also asked her, 'If one of us is menstruating and she and her husband only have a single cover, what should she do?' She replied, 'She should wrap her wrapper around her and sleep with him. He can have what is above it. I will tell you what the Prophet, (ﷺ), did on one of his nights with me. I had cooked some barley and made loaf for him. He came in, stopped at the door, and then went into the mosque. When he wanted to sleep, he closed the door, tied up the waterskin, turned the cup over and put out the light. I waited for him and he ate the loaf. He did not go until I fell asleep. Later he felt the cold and came and got me up. "Warm me! Warm me!" he said. I said, "I am menstruating." He said, "Then uncover your thighs," so I uncovered my thighs and he put his cheek and head on my thighs until he was warm. Then a pet sheep belonging to our neighbour came in. I went and took the load away. I disturbed the Prophet, (ﷺ), and he woke up, so I chased the sheep to the door. The Prophet, (ﷺ), said, "Take what you got of your loaf and do not injure your neighbour's sheep."'_

*LESSONS FROM THIS HADITH ARE:*

1. _A woman is expected to follow her husband's command (If not upon Sinning)._

2. _A woman is expected to seek for his husband's favor (after the favor of Allaah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala). Even during Menstruation._

3. _Men are more inclined to their wives during the cold weather._

4. _Permission to do everything with a Menstruating women except S*X._

5. _There is always a strong BOND between Husband and Wife in as much she is striving adhering to his order._

*BHMC S*XPLANATION CLASS*

05/05/2024

You see a good looking, well groomed man with good behaviour, religious, properly educated and enlightened with a good source of income and a calm demeanour…..

You want him.

But why should he want you?

Who are you?
What are you?

This is where women begin to get defensive.

You stay in your poor character, looking for someone to love you like that, not doing anything to develop skills, earnings, spirituality and character. But you want a good man.

Sister, there are good men who are making choices everyday. Just like you, they also desire value but hey, you don’t believe good men desire value too.

05/05/2024

After dressing up for an event, with the make-ups and all.. your husband now demand for a quickie, what will you do?

Mature minds only pls.

05/05/2024

24/04/2024

_If you still can't comprehend that the lazy leaders invent lazy rumour in the brain of lazy youth to turn the active leader into a lazy one, certainly you are lazy._

*BHMC 2 COUNSELLING*

28/03/2024

From the TABLE of Better Half Marriage Consults [BHMC]

PRESENTS

HOW READY ARE YOU FOR MARRIAGE?:



"You must have an understanding of Marriage. It is difficult to partake of or succeed in what you don't fully understand, so for you to be Married and to succeed in Marriage, you need to fully understand Marriage. What have you grasp of it?"

"You must have an understanding of singleness. A lack of understanding of singleness has hindered a lot of people from enjoying maximizing their singleness. It is difficult to be married and succeed if you have not succeeded in being single. What you have done or built yourself upon when you are single, will determine what you do while married. What have you prepared of it?"

"You must have an understanding of the male and female genders and their unique differences and characteristics. There are unique differences between the male and the female that one needs to know and and understand. The understanding of these characteristics helps one to be able to succeed in relating with the opposite s*x successfully."

"You must have an understanding of yourself. If you don't understand yourself, how can you understand others? Humans are one the hardest thing to know and relate with. But if you know them, then it will be easier for you on the journey called Marriage. And how do you expect others to understand you let alone marrying you?"

"You must consider the vital issues. There are vital issues that need consideration before one can say, I am ready for MARRIAGE. For a man, it's Housing, work to feed a family, manpower to S*X as at when due and change to buy clothes for your wife. For the woman, its Total submissiveness to the husband righteously, taking care of him, managing home affairs, an expert in cooking and say yes to S*X".

"You must know the right thing to take into marriage and what not to take there. *Never go in like a BOSS or CONTROLLER as a MAN.* But as a COMPANION and LEADER. *Never go in like an EQUAL RIGHTER or COMPETITOR.* But as a COMPANION and CAREGIVER."

Matrimonial Builder Course [MBC]

28/03/2024

MY SIMPLE ADVISE TO MARRIED FOLKS

Be Happy, Cheerful and Joyful while HOPING for reward from Allaah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala when the call for any Ibaadah comes to you. Be it Solat, Taraweeh, Zakat, Cooking in Ramadan, even if it's S*x in Ramadan or I AM NOT IN THE MOOD gang. If not, you might jeopardise your reward of it and earn SIN or Forfeit it's reward while doing it or after.

BHMC 2 COUNSELLING