27/12/2025
Abigail: Welcome to LSGSM wealthy relationships. Today, we're dealing with a topic about why some people find it hard to say sorry or admit when they're wrong in relationships 😌
You know how sometimes people got this feeling like "I'm good, I'm right, You're not doing your job, It is not my fault but yours."? 💁♀️
When they mess up 🚫, admitting it feels like they're losing control 😐 or appearing weak 💔
They want to protect their ego. To them, making mistakes mean they have failed 😬.
It could be the fear of consequences 🚨
It could a lack of emotional control 😤 where handling guilt or shame isn't easy for them.
And to some, it's upbringing 👪
Maybe they weren't taught to own up 🤷♀️ their mistakes
This leads to deflection, denial 🚫, or blame game 🎯
Adeola and Kay are here to share more insight 💡
Let's get in😊
Adeola, how do you see this?
Adeola: 🤔 When people avoid taking responsibility, trust suffers and relationships get strained. Like a friend abused his fiancee, Nmeso (name changed), during their anniversary trip to Abuja. He shifted the blame to her, saying she wasn't paying attention to him😔. Nmeso ended things that night 💔 – his lack of accountability backfired 🚫. My coursemate, Toyosi (name changed), also didn't own up to overspending 💸, saying her husband, Ade, was being too strict with money. I'm like, as how? You know some people enjoyed spending the money that comes to them hassle-free. He responded by withholding money 💸, making things worse 🔥 to avoid such entitlement
Abigail: 😯 That's harsh! When people don't own up, it kills trust 💔. Kay, what's your take?
Kay: 💁♀️ Yes. I heard of a man who abandoned his wife for weeks 😔, returned and pointing fingers that she was overreacting. She gave him the cold shoulder 🥶 and he realized he'd messed up 💔. I can sight another example where a neighbour shouted at his wife in public 😤, made her doubt herself 🤯. She's seeking counseling now 💆♀️ cos his behaviour took things far.
Abigail: 🔍 That's red flag! When accountability is missing, damage follows 💔. How do couples fix this?
Adeola: 🤝 Own up to mistakes 💪. Apologize sincerely and work on it 🙏. Then, avoid repeating same mistakes. If you realized you have lied, say for example, about a work trip 🚫 that doesn't exist, do not wait till your partner set boundaries 🚧 and demand accountability. Make amends with honesty and you'll recover.
Kay: Exactly. Address issues, don't twist it 🔧. Some of us are fond of twisting the issue. Accountability do save relationships
Abigail: 🔍 So, how do couples make accountability a habit? 😊
Adeola: Well, 🤔 setting clear expectations will help. 💡 Like, my sister and her husband have monthly "state of the union" talks 🗣️where they air grievances without any blame 🎯.
Kay: 💁♀️ And being vulnerable helps 💖. You can say, "I was wrong" 🙏 when you slip.
Abigail: 😌 True! Accountability breeds trust and protect vulnerability💪
Any final tips?
Adeola: 🤝 I would say, practice self-reflection 🤔. Know your triggers 🚨 don't let ego ruin things
Kay: Exactly communicate, communicate openly and transparently 🗣️💬.
Abigail: Thanks, Adeola and Kay, for sharing insights.
Accountability is not an attack but an unavoidable reality in relationships.
😊 See you next time ...friends and families...👋
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⏰ Saturday December 27th, 2025