20/05/2026
This Chike and Frank's wife is worth why input, because it concerns marriage.
In case you don't know, it is alledged that Frank Edoho's wife (Sandara) slept with Chike the musical artist. She claimed her husband had cheated is why she did it. Then, social media people now went on to bring back the video of him talking about how he punishes his wife.
The matter, therefore, concerns husband punishing wife, wife cheating because the husband had cheated before, and the place of the internet in today's marriage.
Let us take them one after the other.
1. The place of husband punishing wife.
First off, wife's punish husbands too. They deny them s*x, refuse to cook for them, insult them, become musicians when their husband is talking, and even leave for their parent's house. It is not news. It has been happening. Husband and wife punish themselves in marriage
That doesn't make it good, but it happens. However our focus shouldn't just be on the punishment, but why the punishment happened in the first place. Something usually leads to that. Punishment ought to make each other genuinely see their faults and make amends, not for punishment sake. So, Frank is not wrong by punishing his wife. The wife is, however, wrong if she slept with Chike to punish her husband. That's not punishment. That's ashawo. She portrayed herself as a loose person. Punishment should stay internal. Besides, Frank is wrong too if he slept with the other lady as punishment.
2. The wife cheating because the husband have cheated before.
I have already mentioned Frank is wrong if he slept with another woman to punish the wife. That said, let's ask a fundamental question: How did the wife know the husband had slept out? How? Think about it!
I want to believe she knew because the husband had confessed to her. If that's the case and she forgave him, then she is not justified if she goes out to sleep with another man because the husband had done it before. And even if she found out on her own, without the husband mentioning to her, she is still not justified to respond like that. Not because she can't, but because she ought to have held herself higher than he held himself. If the reverse was the case, I would still expect the man not to do the same thing.
We can't go about living our lives to repay people for the evil they have done to us. If that were the case, many people would have died. Many people do wickedly to us every day. Should we be repaying them? That's why we do Christian marriages, so that marriages can abide by Christian rules. And you did traditional or civil wedding, follow the rules.
3. The place of Internet in today's marriage.
It was people who went and searched out Frank's interview some years ago, and used it to be arguing that Chike did better than Frank is why the wife fell. Funnily, many comments and posts have gone towards insulting Frank and supporting Chike. This shows that the Internet, especially social media, is doing so much in today's world, including affecting marriages.
While it is good that people come online to say different things, online person is no person. Some of the accounts are faked, some of the people posting will not permit the same thing in their marriages, most of the people online will not come to support you in real life, and online people have proved to only fuel issues. This is why I said online persons are not real person. Hence, no serious persons should build their lives or take advice from some online people. This doesn't mean you wouldn't find genuine contents online, but I am not sure any professional will really give counsel online. They will require a physical meeting.
Marriage has always been consent between two people. Don't allow people who weren't there when you people agreed to be making you feel bad later or luring you out for evil. Especially social media people. Social media is for socials and content creation, not necessarily real life impact. Besides, any of the parties who start using social media to overemphasise their point or banter themselves aren't doing well. They ought to go back themselves to settle their issues.
May God help Frank, Sandra and Chike with the wisdom, humility and fear of God requires to settle this issue. And also give social media people the ability to learn the right things from this happening.
Married people, especially positive exemplary marriages, must be very careful this season. The demonic agenda against marriages is still ongoing. But we will prevail.
You are the best.
