08/03/2022
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10 WAYS TO AVOID S*X BEFORE MARRIAGE
Sometime ago, I was anchoring a question and answer program on WhatsApp and someone asked me how she can avoid having s*x before marriage. For the benefit of others, I decided to write an article on it.
Let me start by stating that s*x itself is NOT a sin. S*x was created by God. As a matter of fact, God created us with s*xual organs because He wants us to have s*x. S*x is a gift from God to us BUT it's to be enjoyed by ONLY legally married COUPLE. The only time God expects us to have s*x is when we are married not before.
Premarital and extramarital s*x are sins. They may be fun but not honorable. If you notice those two words, one carries the prefix "pre" and the other "extra" and what's that telling us s*x before(pre) or outside of marriage(extra) is not right. S*x is meant to be only in marriage (marital).
Avoiding s*x before marriage, not just because it's the right thing to do, will save you from lots of avoidable ugly experiences, guilty conscience, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, stagnation, death, God's judgment, abortion, etc. It pays to avoid s*x before marriage. You will make God happy and at the same time save yourself from troubles. So, close up and zip up.
Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." Avoiding s*x before marriage is an honorable something to do. Maybe you are in a relationship right now and you sincerely desire to maintain s*xual purity, to avoid s*x before marriage, this article is meant for you. I present to you 10 ways you can avoid s*x before marriage.
1. Decide
In Daniel 1:8 the Bible says that Daniel purposed or decided in his heart that he won't defile himself. Likewise, you have to make a decision. Life is all about decisions. Nothing gets done without a definite decision.
Daniel was able to overcome because he decided. So, you and your partner have to decide too that you guys are not going to have s*x, you've to make up your mind that you will not have s*x till marriage. That's the foundation you are going to lay every other thing on.
2. Guide Your Mind
Proverbs 4:23 says, "Guide your heart with all diligence because out of it flows the issues of life." Your mind is the gateway to your life. What goes on in your mind determines what goes on in your life.
So, guide your heart from pollution, watch the things you fill your mind with, watch the music you listen to, the videos you watch, the things you read etc. These things have the power to influence your life.
3. Mind Your Conversations
In Colossian 3:8 the Bible says that we should put off every filthy communication out of our mouths. Avoid using obscene words, erotic words or suggestive words. Avoid s*x chatting. Mind your use of words. In short, avoid words that can turn you on.
4. Renew Your Mind
Romans 12:2 says that we should renew our minds because that's only when we will be able to judge rightly. When you are always h***y or having an er****on, you have been filling your mind with s*xual stuff, your mind needs renewing.
Watch, listen and read positive things, mostly importantly the Word of God. Listen to nice songs, sermons. That's how to renew your mind. Remember, it's garbage in garbage out. It's what you fill your mind with that it will process and give you back in return. You can't fill your mind with negativity and expecting to live positively.
5. Avoid Too Much Closeness
The Bible asked a question in Proverbs that can a man take fire in his bosom will not be burnt? If you don't want fire to burn you, don't go close.
Avoid too much closeness. It can spark into flames. Men aren't the only one that lust, women too. Avoid too much unnecessary closeness in any form or shape physically or online.
6. Avoid Staying In Secluded Place Alone
Sin thrives in secret very much. To avoid having s*x, try as much as possible to avoid staying alone in a secluded place together. If visiting him or her will make you both to fall into it, stop visiting, let your meetings be in an open place.
7. Don't Cohabit
Cohabiting means living together when you guys aren't married. Cohabiting for whatever reason is not right. That's actually a sin. We should avoid every appearance of evil.
You are only expected to live together after you are married not before you are married unless of course if s*xual purity is not your thing. Body is not iron it must react especially when emotion is involved. It's a harmattan fire! You can't keep a goat and yam in the same house and expects nothing to happen.
8. Stop Collecting Or Requesting For Money
I'm talking to our beautiful ladies now. For some guys, giving you money or anything equals giving them right to ask for s*x. So, don't ask and rarely collect when they give you.
When you keep asking or collecting money, when they ask for s*x you'll feel obligated especially when they start blackmailing you emotionally, "After all I've done for you," "After giving you this or that," you get my point?
9. As For Grace
In time past, s*xual temptations, immorality and perversions are not rampant like it is now. You turn here and there s*x. In the midst of all these, you need God's enabling power(grace) to come out victorious.
The urge to sin is stronger than your will. It's not of him that willeth but of God that showeth mercy. You have decided many times not to have s*x but you keep failing into it despite your decisions. It's good to make decision but much more than that, you need grace. So, ask for God's grace. You can't do it on your own.
10. Avoid Getting Intimate
Don't eat the food while it's still on the fire. You're the same person that will eat it when it's cooked. So, avoid kissing, romancing, touching, smooching, unnecessary hugging etc., these are launching pad to s*x!
Let me conclude by saying that, maintaining s*xual purity pays, it will give you peace of mind, it will save you from troubles and more importantly you will make God happy.
Thanks for reading.
© Okolie Samuel
