12/09/2025
DEEP THINKER SCHOOL
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Today's topic: Mothers are Mirrors God Uses to Bless Every Family.
Who is a mother?
A mother is typically a female parent who has given birth to a child or who plays the role of nurturing, guiding, and raising a child, who may or may not be their biological offspring.
The greatest achievement a woman can have in a lifetime is to be a good wife and dutifully perform her motherly traits (raise wonderful children).
How treasurable a mother is!
Nature makes it unrealistic that children are more bonded with a mother than a father.
It is biologically proven that hormones like oxytocin and vasopressin, released during and after birth, play a role in fostering a strong emotional connection between a mother and her child, facilitating bonding.
The affective relationship that exists between a mother and a child is beyond love because, right from conception to the teenage stage, children are always seen being together with their mother, and the love they experience at that level stays in their minds forever, whereas men are often out of the home trying to bring something home.
That’s nature, and we can't do anything about it.
Genesis 3:20: The man named his wife Eve (meaning the life-giving one), for he said, "She shall become the mother of all mankind."
First of all, let's know what the meaning of EVE is.
The name Eve is a Hebrew word, Chavah (חַוָּה), meaning the living one or source of life.
Biblically, the first mother, Eve, was referred to as the source of life.
What does it mean?
It means that essential elements for survival, such as water, sun, and energy sources, were coded by God with a lot of natural blessings in a woman, and if they are maintained, blessings must follow.
Honestly, men claim they are the head of a family, but if you analytically compare and contrast, you will agree with me that a mother (wife) is the only one who can make or break a home.
Men are the head, and women are the neck.
The head can't work effectively without the neck.
Let me biblically cite an example.
Mothers (wives) are spiritually, physically, and psychologically endowed with all the attributes of life.
No wonder the Bible said he who finds a wife receives a special blessing from God.
The account of a virtuous woman gives a holistic meaning to who a mother is.
In Proverbs 31:10-31, verse 28 says: "Her children arise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her."
It shows that mothers are the mirrors at which the husband is looking and the children are also looking, and God is also looking at.
There's an Igbo adage that says, if you want to know how your future wife would be, please go and examine her mother, and you'll have a clue about what’s going to befall you.
Having built the background thesis, let's look at how some mothers have failed in the 21st century.
They are easily lured and manipulated; most of them take advice from someone they shouldn't, and some of them don't think about the results.
Rather, they can say or do anything, not minding what that might result in the future.
That's my opinion, though.
Let's critically analyze the areas where our mothers have lost it totally.
These days, mothers are no longer what they used to be.
The informal training that helped to nurture our 30-plus and 40-plus upward generation no longer exists.
It was a time when a mother would correct any child that she saw doing something wrong, and the biological mother of the child would even join in the discipline of the said child.
Now we have learned Western ways of raising a family in African homes, and it's endangering our children.
Some mothers connect their sons with those who are engaging in fraud and beg them to teach their sons the work instead of encouraging the boys to learn skills.
Some mothers have imparted misguided knowledge to our girls today, that any man who doesn't have money should not come close to them.
She doesn’t want her daughter to see what she experienced in her marriage; she is therefore telling the girl to become vulnerable to men (yahoo boys) who don’t want to hear anything about marriage, let alone tie themselves to a lazy lady.
That has increased hookup and prostitution to the highest level today.
A mother no longer asks her children, "Where did you get this money or these material things from?"
Rather, she is going around churches, testifying to the goodness of God in her family.
21st-century mothers have made our ladies forget what kept Ndi Igbo's cultural way of preparing our girls for marriage by letting them assist (as maids) a young married woman who would be responsible for taking care of the kids and house chores.
This system usually exposed our girls to what marriage is all about, but no girl follows such a route anymore because either the “madam” mishandles her, or she will not even attend secondary school at all.
The effect of the 21st-century Western lifestyle is clear, and it's gradually deteriorating our values and exposing us to dangers.
Some mothers are producing weak types of boys these days who will become bad husbands and fathers tomorrow by not correcting their excesses.
Some mothers have started having favorite children among their kids because of money and boldly tell the rich one not to help their siblings, causing division in the family.
Some mothers are no longer interested in joining CWO (Catholic Women Organization), the Women's Guild (Anglican Church), Dorcas Society, or whatever name the church chooses to call their women's group. They barely go to meetings because the thirst for God is declining, and darkness is taking over the hearts of some of our mothers.
Some mothers have now lost their prayer life and replaced it with social media.
In the 2000s and 90s, every midnight you would hear mothers praying in every home, connecting their families to the Almighty God, presenting their families to Yahweh, and often going to church to clean it up. These days, the fear of God has diminished, and they are competing with our girls for the latest hairstyles and clothes in the market.
Some mothers are part of the reason Ndi Oga don’t settle their boys these days because they see other children as less important or not worthy of being useful, just like their son. Therefore, to hell with them, and eventually wasted the young man's time and years of youthfulness to use and learn skills that will help him throughout life, and some useless men listen to them.
Some mothers support their children in changing their s*xuality, such as homos*xual or le***an, and say, “Let her be, that’s her life and choices, and we are in the free world.”
When a mother is defeated, the family is dissuaded, and, of course, the energy of love that God implanted in them to unite a home will be lost, and the devil will take over the family and sow seeds of destruction that may not be removed for generations.
The world today still hasn't recovered from the sin the first mother (Eve) of the world committed.
She was lured and manipulated by the evil spirit, and that very spirit still exists to this day, and some of our mothers haven't learned such lessons.
Our mothers are the mirrors God uses to question or bless families.
My greatest concern is the type of ladies our mothers are producing today; they are setting a pace that will ruin our society moving forward.
They are responsible for the major reason some of our girls are not married; they keep telling them to look for a man who has money that can solve their family problems, and some of them, out of desperation, get unwanted pregnancies.
Does marrying your daughter equate to wealth creation?
This has resulted in our ladies having more children outside of marriage or abortion at its highest level due to uncultured motherly utterances toward their daughters, and being a single mother is now the trend in the land because no rich man came knocking, and those yahoo boys did the dirty job.
I write to our mothers to please remember that God has entrusted every home to them, and they will have to account for it.
Proverbs 31:30-31:
30 Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Conclusively, God cherishes mothers, and they are major contributors to their children's destinies and the success of families, society, state, and nation.
Be that mother heaven will glorify, and be that source of life that your children, society, and extended family will be proud of, just as heaven glorified Mother Mary.
Copying Westerners is good, but don't forget our cultural values and spiritual exercises that have sustained African families to this day.
Shalom.
Beautifully written by your brother, Deep Thinker.
Mr. Ogbuagu Chukwuka, Criminologist.
