21/05/2026
Some weeks ago, I saw a video of Frank Edoho talking about malice and I honestly wanted to say something immediatelyā¦ but I decided to let the noise calm down first.
Because social media is funny.
Sometimes, people are more interested in picking sides than actually thinking deeply about what is being said.
But one thing about that conversation is this,
It exposed how many people genuinely think emotional silence is normal in relationships.
And honestly, that scared me a little.
Because imagine living with somebody who can stay in the same house with you for days acting like you donāt exist.
No communication.
No attempt to resolve things.
Just silence.
And somehow, that is now called āpeace.ā
No.
That is emotional distance.
And the dangerous part is that many people grew up seeing this kind of thing, so now it feels normal to them.
The father keeps malice.
The mother keeps malice.
Everybody is moving around the house like tenants with unresolved tension.
Then the children grow up and carry the same pattern into relationships.
Now before somebody says,
āBut at least itās better than fighting.ā
Of course, not every issue should become shouting or violence.
But silence can wound people too.
In fact, some people would rather you shout at them than completely shut them out emotionally.
Because there is something painful about trying to talk to someone you loveā¦ and feeling invisible.
And honestly, maturity is not avoiding communication.
Maturity is being able to say,
āIām hurt,ā
without turning your silence into punishment.
Because once silence starts becoming a weapon in love, intimacy slowly starts dying too.
