20/05/2026
TOPIC: TOTAL LOYALTY TO CHRISTIAN FAMILY
ANCHOR SCRIPTURE (S): Genesis 18:19, Joshua 24:15
MINISTERING: PASTOR (ENGR.) JERRY SUNDAY O. (DIVINE ENCOUNTER SERVICE)
DATE: 20TH MAY, 2026
INTRODUCTION:
The family is the first institution that God created before even the government. Loyalty to the family is the foundational form of loyalty.
We shall discuss this topic into 3 subjects which are:
1. Total Loyalty to Christian Marriage,
2. Total Loyalty of children to Christian Parents and
3. Total Loyalty of Christian Parents to children.
TOTAL LOYALTY TO CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE (MALACHI 2: 14-16)
God expects and demands total loyalty in our marriages.
Loyalty in marriages does mean covering up sin, but first loyalty to God, then loving your spouse as an act of worship to God.
ATTRIBUTES OF LOYALTY TO CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE
Loyalty to Christian Marriage requires leaving (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5-6).
Before there is cleaving, first leaving has to take place.
Loyalty requires the spouse to leave friends, family, past relationships, bad habits, and any form of 3rd party and making your spouse your top most priority.
Loyalty to Christian Marriage Demands Faithfulness (Hebrews 13:4, Malachi 2:14).
Unfaithfulness is not just to extra-marital affairs.
It extends to our roles, duties and responsibilities. When we fail in such, we are disloyal to our faithfulness. How faithful have you been to your marital vow, being truthful and transparent, protective to your spouse.
Loyalty to Christian Marriage Involves Forgiveness and Letting Go (Colossians 3:13).
No marriage can exist in the absence of forgiveness and No Marriage can flourish and blossom in the midst of referee mentality.
Forgiveness entails letting go of all hurts and bitterness, seeking reconciliation by swallowing pride, admitting wrongs not creating excuses and extension of Grace.
TOTAL LOYALTY OF CHILDREN TO CHRISTIAN PARENTS (EPHESIANS 6:1-3-NLT).
Every child must truthfully be able to answer the question: am I loyal to my Christian parents?
Are you truly loyal in your heart, in your words, in your choices and in your care for them until the day God calls them home?
WHAT LOYALTY TO PARENTS REQUIRES.
It requires total obedience (Colossians 3:20 – NLT, TPT).
Your loyalty is tested when your parents say “NO” to something your friends or society says “YES” to. Obedience means submitting to your parents’ wisdom and authority.
It means complete Honor (Proverbs 23:22, 25).
Honor is the key to prosperity and disloyalty to it has robbed so many children from attaining the heights God desires for them.
Honor Means:
Speaking well of them, even if they made mistakes
Seeking their counsel even if you might not always follow it.
Visiting, calling, remembering and celebrating their special events such as birthday and anniversary
Not squeezing your face or complaining when they repeat a story severally.
Fasting and praying for them.
It means Providing (1 Timothy 5:4, 8).
LOYALTY IN PROVIDING TEST QUESTIONS
When was the last time you bought a gift for your parents aside their special occasions?
When last did you wash their clothes?
When last did you take them out?
When last did you sit to discuss with them not to make request?
When last did you tell them how much you love them?
Providing also means being loyal to our responsibilities and obligations to our parents. Whenever you cause pain to your parents, you will be operating in a closed heaven.
TOTAL LOYALTY OF CHRISTIAN PARENTS TO CHILDREN (PROVERBS 22:6).
Lack of Loyalty to children by parents is what has contributed negatively to the waywardness of most children in the society today.
Loyalty to children goes beyond providing their basic needs such as food and shelter, but loyalty in your time, your words, your discipline, your presence and prayers.
WHAT LOYALTY MEANS TO THE CHILDREN
Seeing your children as a gift from God and not just a burden or responsibilities (Psalm 127:3).
The point of view you see your children speaks volume on how they see your loyalty to them.
TEST QUESTIONS ON LOYALTY
When last time did you tell your children that you are a gift to me?
When last did you express your love to them, even by telling them?
When last did you take them out just to have fun?
When last did you enter their room to wish them good night?
It means being Present, not just being available (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).
Most parents are present but very far from their children because they have not made themselves available for them.
Availability is when you are willing to listen to them without being judgmental, you create time to play with them, getting to know them such as their friends, hobbies, likes and dislikes etc.
Loyalty to them means discipline in love and not anger or bully (Ephesians 6:4, Proverbs 13:24).
When you are being disciplined, you are being loyal to their character, while when you are harsh, angry, being a bully etc., it means you are disloyal to their heart and feelings.
Never allow your children fear you, rather they should fear disappointing you which will lead them to being honest with you.
CONCLUSION
Beloved, loyalty to our family is being attacked by the devil and it is our responsibility to be up and doing in our loyalty at all levels.
Family is to be enjoyed and not endured because it can not last forever, making good use of each day is the best mentality to have.
I pray for grace to be loyal to our family at all levels in Jesus’ Name.
PRAYERS:
Heavenly Father, I receive grace this evening to loyal to my family. O’ Lord have mercy in areas I have missed it and grant me the grace and opportunity to make amends in Jesus’ Name.
