04/08/2024
TIPS ON HOW TO HANDLE MARRIAGE INTIMACY
In a family study group where the resource person spoke on PROTECTING INTIMACY IN A PUBLIC WORLD. He said, Many times, the conventional approach is to find someone to share the shortcomings of your spouse with. According to Mr. Wule Adewumi, this approach most times will only worsens the situation on ground.
It was discussed that it doesn't imply that we continue to cover-up our spouse's shortcomings. It simply means , there is a need to apply discretion on who should hear or who shouldn't.
But when issues are getting out of hand selectively find those to report to PRIVATELY.
Do you know that When Joseph knew that Mary had a pregnancy that cannot be naturally accounted for. The report said Joseph planned to quietly put Mary aside. This approach gave him room to do what was right thereafter.
According to Mr. Adewumi, even when your spouse offended you, the mark of a child of God is not to shame one's partner no matter what may be. It is an opportunity to love, and find ways to assist him or her to become a better person.
*Crowd Don’t Make Marriage:*
Marriage is a sacred bond ordained by God.
By implications, it have God and His interest in it.
It is designed to be nurtured in intimacy.
It's a covenant between two individuals, each with their own flaws and imperfections. and cherished in the sanctity of of privacy.
However, it have been established that the health of a marriage is not determined by the applause of the crowd. It comes back to how healthy the parties in it are. We must also say the depth of understanding and love shared between spouses play a major factor on how healthy a marriage can be.
It's a weakness to promote your spouse's weaknesses in public... It's not virtue (no matter her shortcomings)
In today's society, there's a pervasive belief that airing grievances and seeking external validation can solve marital issues.
However, the truth is that exposing the faults and shortcomings of your spouse to the public eye only serves to weaken the foundation of trust and intimacy in the relationship.
As the book of Proverbs wisely counsels, love covers over offenses, and fostering love means protecting the privacy and dignity of your spouse.
Maybe she'll be allowed to read this slowly... And to see other people's views.
*How about family members?*
Family members may mean well, but their interference in marital affairs often exacerbates misunderstandings and conflicts.
The biblical principle of leaving one's parents and cleaving to one's spouse underscores the importance of prioritizing the unity and oneness of the marital bond. When outside influences encroach upon this sacred union, it breeds discord and resentment between spouses.
*Social Media*
Furthermore, the advent of social media has introduced a new battleground for marital privacy.
The allure of sharing personal struggles or seeking sympathy from online communities often backfires, as the public scrutiny and judgment only serve to deepen wounds and magnify marital challenges.
Instead of finding solace, couples may find themselves pitted against each other in a virtual arena of comparison and criticism.
What's the outcome?
A celebrity, politicians, church leaders merely break away from each other.
Social Media doesn't heal marital struggles instead it puts the final nail to the coffin of marriages in crises.
*TURN TO EACH OTHER*
In overcoming the complexities of marriage in a public world, it's imperative to cultivate a culture of discretion, wisdom, and grace.
Instead of seeking validation from external sources, couples are encouraged to turn to each other with humility and empathy, addressing issues privately and seeking reconciliation with love and understanding.
By guarding the sanctity of intimacy and refraining from exposing marital vulnerabilities to the world, couples can strengthen their bond and build a foundation of trust and mutual respect that withstands the trials of life.
Don’t expose your marriage to public scrutiny; those who do such often lose out on their homes.
*Conclusion*
Once you take your fights and struggles to the public, the crisis becomes more difficult to heal.
But today, you can turn a new leaf, repent and ask for forgiveness from each other.
Start all over... We all have a new beginning.
This is a new day.
*Note:* This discussion excludes obvious and debilitating vices that can lead to injury or downward degradation of one of the spouses who refuses to change or repent.
