Genesis of Grace

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09/03/2026

I met a guy and fell in love When I was just entering the university. That could have ruined me.😆

The guy’s mum happened to be a long-time friend of my mum when we lived in another city. We connected in school and naturally started developing feelings for each other.

To his credit, he did the right thing. He called his mum to tell her about his interest in me. When he eventually asked me out, I also told my mum.

Guess what? My mum said NO.

She even threatened to stop paying my school fees if I continued any kind of relationship with him. At that time, I was deeply hurt and felt she was controlling my life.

But looking back now, I realize something: I had no business entering a relationship at that stage.

I didn’t even have a CGPA yet.
No focus.
No clear direction.
No real self-awareness yet.

Sadly, before we graduated, the guy impregnated another lady in church. Thankfully, they eventually got married eventually. Maybe I would never have been able to attain this height if I had missed it then.

Today I know better.

I am more informed.
I know myself more.
I understand my life and my direction much better now.
So when I was ready, I knew what is good for me and what I need in my future journey.

And one important truth I have learned is this: not everyone who was good for you as a teenager will still be fit for you as an adult.

Time changes people. Growth changes perspective.

So don’t rush to make decisions your level of maturity is not yet ready to handle.

And don’t try to possess what you are not yet equipped to manage.

Now look at some situations around us:
• A 100-level student who does not even have a CGPA yet already engaged.
• A worker earning 10,000 monthly taking a car loan.
• A pastor with barely five members planning to open another church.
• Someone earning below 50k bringing more than three children into the world.

Sometimes we need to pause and ask ourselves an honest question:

When are we going to give God some rest?

God will not do for man what He has already given man the power to do. He gave us brains to think, plan, and make wise decisions.

Not every problem is spiritual. Some situations are simply the result of poor planning.

Truth be told, some prayers remain unanswered not because God is wicked—but because the requests themselves are unreasonable and show no sense of planning.

Wisdom is also spiritual.
Let’s learn to use it.

Wisdom is not just knowing what you want.
Wisdom is knowing when you are ready for it.

Time changes things.


09/03/2026

HOW SÂŁX RU|NED MY LIFE

One of my greatest regrets is the premarital s*x I had on the night of my 25th birthday.

It changed everything.

I became so emotionally and physically attached to this man that I couldn’t stop seeing him—even though I knew deep down he wasn’t good for me.

The bond created through s*x made it very difficult to walk away.

Soon guilt began to consume me. I started withdrawing from church activities because I felt ashamed. I could barely concentrate on my work because my mind was constantly occupied with thoughts of him.

Then he proposed—and I said yes.

He wasn’t a bad person, but he was not a dedicated believer. The sad part is that I ignored every warning people gave me. By that time, I was already deeply consumed by the s*xual bond we shared.

We eventually got married.

But the reality hit me just three months later.

He drinks too much and spends most of his time with friends who loved partying and clubbing. While I want to focus on building a family, he more focused on fun and immediate enjoyment.

My husband sometimes calls me to have s*x when I want to pray. Even when it’s time to go to church, he wants us to stay home and cuddle or make love.

Now I feel trapped. I am tired of the s*x because I feel like I have lost control of my life. I cannot build a godly home, and I am afraid that my children will not be trained in a godly way.

These were the words of a lady who once came to me for counseling.

As I listened to her story, something became very clear to me:

S*x is very sweet. I cannot deny that.
It is pleasurable, exciting, and deeply satisfying.

But let’s be honest—it can also complicate and even destroy things.

I have lost valuable male friendships simply because their s*xual desires conflicted with my boundaries. Sometimes a good friendship had to end because someone wanted more than I was willing to give.

Through these experiences, I have learned a hard truth:

S*x can make people hold on to the wrong person, and it can also make them lose the right person.

Relationships that should never have existed are sometimes formed purely because of the pleasure of intimacy.

S*x can keep someone stuck in a toxic relationship long after they should have walked away.

On the other hand, it can also make people reject someone they should have valued—simply because their desires led them elsewhere.

The truth is that s*x is one of the beautiful gifts God created for pleasure. But its impact goes far beyond the moment of excitement. It carries deep emotional, spiritual, and psychological consequences.

So it should never be taken lightly.

If you observe carefully, you may notice something:
As s*x becomes cheaper, true love and commitment become rarer.

I once asked myself a question:

Was God being too harsh when He commanded us to avoid fornication and adultery?

Why wouldn’t He simply allow us to enjoy s*xual pleasure with as many people as we want—just like we enjoy food, travel, or other pleasures in life?

Then it dawned on me.

God was not trying to deprive us of pleasure.
He was protecting us.

Think about it:

• Show me someone who is cheating but still remains completely honest.
• Show me someone who is cheating but still gives their best to their partner.
• Show me someone who is cheating but still serves God wholeheartedly.
• Show me someone who is cheating but still remains truly virtuous and consecrated.

If you can control your s*xual desires and say no to temptation, you can develop discipline in every other area of your life.

Samson did not fall because Delilah was cunning.
He fell because he was drowning in his own lust and lack of self-control.

Disobey God at your own risk.

The choice is yours.

Whenever you’re about to embark on a journey, make a decision, or take a bold step—and deep down you feel that inner ten...
15/05/2025

Whenever you’re about to embark on a journey, make a decision, or take a bold step—and deep down you feel that inner tension, that mix of “should I?” or “shouldn’t I?”—pause and pay attention. That unrest is often a sign that your spirit is inviting you to reflect more deeply.

In those moments, avoid running to someone who you already know has a fixed opinion about the matter. If you already anticipate what they’ll say, then you’re not really seeking counsel—you’re seeking confirmation.

And sadly, that’s what many of us do. We claim we’re looking for advice, but in truth, we’re just hunting for agreement, validation, or a gentle push in the direction we already want to go. That’s not wisdom—that’s emotional convenience.

True counsel comes from a place of openness—being willing to hear what you may not want to hear, and weighing it against your values, convictions, and purpose.

Be more intentional with your life. Don’t live on autopilot or convenience.
Live deliberately. Choose growth, not just comfort.

29/04/2025

To those of us in the waiting room expecting God's mercy one way or another, the God of Daniel will come through for us speedily. I can feel the hands of God..🥰🥰

The way a buffet doesn’t work for a poor man is the same way a goal-driven woman cannot thrive with a man who has a myop...
27/04/2025

The way a buffet doesn’t work for a poor man is the same way a goal-driven woman cannot thrive with a man who has a myopic mindset.
Have you ever heard of collateral damage?
Yeah, that’s exactly what happens when ambition meets small-mindedness.

And guess what?
The same way a visionary man cannot fulfill his destiny when he marries a problematic, unsupportive woman.
It’s like trying to sail with a heavy anchor dragging you down — the ship won’t go far!

Moral of the story:
Choose your life partner with your future in mind, not just your feelings in the moment.
Your purpose is too big to be wasted on the wrong connection.

27/04/2025

Love for God is best demonstrated through our love for fellow humans.

Never forget that.🥰

15/03/2025

WHY YOU KEEP MISSING GREAT OPPORTUNITIES

Nature doesn’t always offer second or third chances. As a highly ambitious woman who understands this truth and deeply values success, I seize every opportunity as if it will never come again. Remember this: your attitude toward opportunities is a direct reflection of your desire for success.

Many people unknowingly miss great opportunities due to mood swings that obscure their true character, leaving others uncertain of how to engage with them. Without even realizing it, they may forfeit chances that could have changed their lives.

Take the story of Rebekah in Genesis 24, for example. If she had been in a bad mood and refused to offer water to Abraham’s servant and his camels, she might have missed the opportunity to become Isaac’s wife. That simple act of kindness led her to a covenantal home, making her part of the lineage that eventually played an essential role in the most significant event in human history—salvation.

Similarly, pride and insensitivity have caused some men to overlook their destined partners in pursuit of an ideal that may not exist. Some desire a woman who is both deeply spiritual and physically molded to a worldly standard. As a result, when a truly good woman appears, they dismiss her simply because she doesn’t match the image they have created in their minds.

Let me remind you: God does not announce when He is bringing something good into our lives. It is up to us to stay vigilant and always present our best selves.

No matter what challenges you face, let your character remain a garment of grace. Do not let a difficult season rob you of a God-given opportunity.

I will say this again and again—kindness and empathy will never go out of style. So, choose to be kind, lovely, cheerful, accommodating, hospitable, gracious, sweet, humble, honest, and morally upright in all situations.

Never take any chance for granted, because experience has taught me that the paths leading to greatness are not always obvious at first. Stay alert, stay positive, and remain open to possibilities.

May God help us to be our best at all times. 🙏

15/03/2025

FROM ONE PAIR OF SHOE TO AMERICA

When people say, “Do not despise the days of small beginnings,” I can’t help but reflect on my own journey. Look at my shoe. This was 2012. Go ahead, have a laugh at this one. 😅😅

Grateful to God that I’m no longer where I used to be.

Back in primary school, I owned just one pair of shoes. 🫣The same pair served both church and school. One day, classmates mocked me for wearing my “church shoes” to school. I cried all the way home. My mom comforted me, saying, “Focus on your education. One day, you’ll not only have many shoes but also be able to give them to others.”

Fast forward to today, and the story has changed. Now, I have over ten pairs of shoes that I haven’t even worn this year.

But this transformation didn’t come from mere wishes. It came from being focused, determined, prayerful, and above all, refusing to settle for less. ✊

Every successful person understands that the price of success is steep. Yet, when the rewards come, the pain and struggles fade away—much like a mother forgets labor pains upon seeing her healthy newborn.

🌹

Don’t stop trying.

Don’t stop hoping.

Don’t stop pushing.

If a door closes, knock on another.

If you face rejection, try again.

Many of my achievements didn’t come on the first attempt. But when I desire something deeply, I give it my all. If I don’t succeed, I try again.

My visa was refused twice and I got it only at the 3rd attempt.
I applied and sent mail to over 50 professors before getting one single offer that changed my story.

Nothing great happens easily or by accident. So you must fight with your very last strength. And you must never give up on yourself.

May your labor never be in vain. 🌹🌹🌹🔥

15/03/2025

ABOUT MY FIRST RELATIONSHIP

I love sharing this story because I believe there’s something for everyone to learn from it.

When I entered university in 2006, I met a good-looking guy in my church. He was active in both the choir and Sunday school, just like I was. As we spent more time together, we grew close and found ourselves drawn to each other. It wasn’t long before we realized our feelings were mutual.

Wanting to do things the right way, we told our parents about our intentions to start a relationship. His mother gave her blessing, but my mum strongly opposed it. She believed it wasn’t the right time for me to be in a relationship, especially so early in my university journey.

Despite her disapproval, we decided to stay together. But my mum was relentless—she insisted that I end things. After facing so much pressure, I finally gave in.

But when the time came to break the news, I just couldn’t do it. Not because I was afraid of him, but because the thought of looking him in the eyes and telling someone I once assured of my commitment that I was no longer interested felt unbearable. The words simply wouldn’t come out.

So, instead of facing him, I asked his friend to break the news on my behalf, thinking that would make it easier. But one day, he met me on campus and asked me to look into his eyes and say it was over. I couldn’t do it. Instead, I walked away in silence. No explanation, no closure—just silence.

Looking back, I realize how many people today end relationships just as easily—without a genuine reason, without remorse, and without considering how much the other person has invested. That’s not just selfishness; that’s a lack of integrity. Even when a breakup is necessary, it should be handled with sincerity and compassion. Heartbreak hurts—don’t ever forget that.

Fast forward ten years later, in 2016, I sent him a friend request on Facebook. While waiting for him to accept, I went straight to his inbox and apologized for how I handled things back then. Even though I knew it wasn’t entirely my fault, I took full responsibility for my actions.

His response surprised me. He said, “Dorcas, we are adults now, and life has been kind to us in different ways. Let’s move on.”

That was a moment of relief. Seeing that he was happily married, with children, and thriving in his career made me happy.

Here’s what I want to emphasize: being considerate of how others feel and taking responsibility for your actions is a sign of integrity and love. Sadly, many people fall in love emotionally, but they don’t truly love at heart. They treat others in ways they would never accept for themselves.

The best kind of people to share your life with are those who love before they fall in love. Not because they are perfect or incapable of making mistakes, but because their core values—integrity and compassion—will guide them to treat you well, no matter what.
Don’t joke with this. Choose someone with compassion and integrity. It matters.

Now that I reflect on it, my mum was right all along—she truly did me a favor. I had no business being in a relationship so early—just a year into university—when my focus should have been on my education. Looking back, if I had insisted on continuing, who knows where I’d be now? I could have found myself pregnant before even completing my degree, and the woman with five science and engineering degrees might never have emerged. All the knowledge acquired for the benefit of mankind may not have been possible.

I know that some people may enter relationships at a young age, even in their first year of college, and still make it work—some even go on to marry each other. But in most cases, the story doesn’t end well.
So please, stay focused and avoid distractions. ✍️
E get why.

15/03/2025

FROM WANTING BREAD TO DRIVING BENZ

I was born without a silver spoon. It was very tough, and I can’t forget how many times I had to rely on collecting used clothes from relatives. The most interesting part of my childhood was our Sunday tradition. Every Sunday evening, we got to eat bread and tea. That was our “enjoyment day” because, on other days, such opportunities didn’t come.

We would set our cups on the table—eight of us (6 children)—waiting eagerly as my mom shared the tea from one big cup, along with a few slices of bread. It was never enough, but we were always excited and looked forward to it.

I stayed committed to my studies. Oh, it was tough. I recall how many times I wept because I couldn’t get Christmas clothes like my mates, whose parents could afford to dress them well. I remember walking miles to school because there was no money for transportation.

But here’s the good news—time changes everything. Today, I don’t even buy bread because I know it’s unhealthy for me. And on the rare occasions I do, I barely finish it before it goes bad, and I toss it in the trash. The same person who once longed for a slice of bread now drives a Benz.

Most of those kids I grew up with can’t believe how much God has done for me. Now, I am a blessing to many of them.

The lesson from my story is this - If you can persevere, that storm will soon be over, and you shall be celebrated. Time changes even the worst situations.

If I can make it , anybody can.
Because my God isn’t tired of lifting people.

Stay focused—your own breakthrough is coming! 🚀✨

15/03/2025

To me, fashion is all about comfort.

From the moment I freed myself from the shackles of societal and religious expectations, I chose to wear only what makes me feel at ease. I refuse to dress for anyone else’s approval—I dress for myself.

One reason I avoid tightly fitted dresses is simple: they suffocate me. But give me a simple top or shirt with jeans, and I can go the entire day feeling comfortable and confident.

The same goes for heels—I don’t wear them because they make me uncomfortable. And heavy makeup? No, thank you. It makes my face feel like it’s on fire, and the fact that I can’t freely rub my face as I normally would just frustrates me.

My point is this: Never sacrifice your comfort just to meet society’s expectations. Know your limits, respect your preferences, and stay in your lane.

If a woman loves skirts, makeup, gele, and everything that enhances femininity, let her embrace it. But if those things don’t work for you, don’t feel pressured to conform. Fashion and beauty should be about personal choice, not forced standards.

However, let’s be clear—nudity is not an option. Whether it makes you comfortable or not, there’s a line that shouldn’t be crossed.

And to men who try to force their wives to look like other women—please stop it. You saw and accepted her style before marriage, so don’t think you can now use authority to mold her into your “ideal” after the fact. If you had a preference, you should have married accordingly. Let people be themselves, and let sleeping dogs lie.

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