16/12/2025
BETWEEN TRUTH AND NOISE : Evaluating Today's Voices on Marriage
We are witnessing a noticeable rise in the number of public speakers and preachers who address young people on marriage, both in physical gatherings and across social media platforms. While the attention given to marriage is not in itself a problem, the nature, depth, and source of these teachings raise serious concerns. From my personal observation, these voices can broadly be categorized as follows:
1. Those ruled by emotions:
These speakers communicate from excitement, anger, fear, or sentiment rather than from wisdom. Their counsel often fluctuates with moods and personal feelings, leaving listeners stirred but not grounded.
2. Those who preach from pain, hurt, and bitterness:
Their messages are shaped by unresolved personal experiences. Instead of healing others, they unconsciously project their wounds, turning private scars into public doctrines.
3. Those who preach by trends and societal pressures:
This group mirrors cultural conversations more than scriptural convictions. What is popular becomes truth, and what is uncomfortable is avoided, even when Scripture clearly speaks.
4. Those who are dogmatic and stereotypical:
They reduce complex marital realities into rigid formulas. Context, individuality, growth, and grace are often ignored in favor of absolute statements that leave no room for discernment.
5. Circular counselors without sound biblical knowledge:
Their teachings recycle popular phrases and familiar lines, but lack depth, spiritual balance, and scriptural accuracy. Much is said, yet little is truly explained.
6. Those who preach religion blindly:
This category leans heavily on religious activity without understanding God’s intent. Traditions are defended, but truth is rarely examined, and questions are often silenced rather than answered.
7. Those trained in marriage and pastoral counseling:
These speakers combine biblical understanding, emotional intelligence, structure, and accountability. Their counsel is measured, balanced, and aimed at long-term health rather than quick applause.
The challenge before the Church and the youth is not the absence of voices, but the lack of discernment. Marriage is too sacred and too complex to be shaped by emotions, trends, or unresolved pain. Only truth rooted in Scripture, wisdom, and maturity can genuinely prepare a generation for the covenant in marriage, not just companionship.
(C) Niyi Oluwatuyi