30/08/2018
They began in school; sitting together, reading together and eventually loving each other.
He is quiet with a subdued presence. She is simple with a piercing wit. And they glowed with passion so easily.
But it had a deep spiritual tinge. He liked to remind her of their prayer schedules.
"We are praying tomorrow, remember?"
And she'd close off from work and rush over to him to pray.
She liked it. It was a special thing to have someone who was serious with God.
She didn't mind if she had to always remind him of the dinner plans he forgot, the birthday he didn't wish her or the times she wanted to do something reekingly romantic and he killed her vibes with another bible study schedule.
"He was work in progress--maybe prayer would help his lack of emotional intelligence." She often thought.
As the relationship aged on, those little things that he wasn't to her, began to matter.
"He's not crazy about me!" I once heard her complain.
At the time, he had just forgotten to call for a week and when he did, he reminded her of the next meeting they needed to have, to pray.
Increasingly, it was difficult to make the guy see that the girl who he prayed with had problems that could be solved if he played with her. To him, perhaps, strong relationships are built on prayer and maintaining emotional fidelity.
In the end, being a good guy was not enough. She took the nail to the bull's eye and broke up.
He had a lady who had morphed from just wanting to talk to God in a brightly lit room to wanting to talk to him alone in the shadow of candlelights and he was stuck in what she always found acceptable that he couldn't see her broadening needs beyond the spiritual.
Here's to brothers who get into relationships with pulpit responsibilities resting squarely on your shoulders.
She is not another church member you relate with. Crave for her. Let her know you love God but make it very obvious by the way you love her.
Pray. It makes you access the power of God.
PLAY. It makes you access the power of your passion.
She won't leave if you pray so often but she will leave if you play so little. God won't work the miracle you want him to do in your relationship when he has gifted you with the intellect to do the magic yourself. I know I'm speaking her mind right now.
I hope this helps you.
Author: Dr. Olulade Ebenezer
